CM, i dont think its called generalisation.. I think mahnoor is just saying that there are some sad people out there.. and as i said to lussi, u wont understand the disgust girls feel unless its happened to u urself..
obscene comments aside, imagine being grabbed everytime u go to bazaar… thats just sickening.. leaves one traumatised
and yes.. we will still marry pakis cus all of them aint the same
Sadiyah, abaya or not… some men dont care.. my family back in pak is very coservative.. and when we go out, we wear the full chaddar and all (some relatives do full nikab) and everything is covered… but it doesnt stop them..
again, not trying to generalise.. speaking from experience
Absolutely! I bet 100% of the people will start assuming I want to marry a gora or something. I said “I will never marry a paki,” that certainly doesn’t mean I want to marry a non-muslim.
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manno yaar u've lived in pakistan so i think u'll agree with me that there r guys of all types from very decent and respectful to absolute cheapsters
im sure the same goes for most races
and girls too, there r some who r decent and some cheap
u can't say that all pakistani guys r cheap or that all r shareef
there's a mix
also some ppl may commit acts of cheapness once or twice and then learn from their mistake and improve...
but it takes one fish to dirty the whole pond. if u go out and get harrassed by one person, then although the others you encountered did not do anything to you, your experience is overall negative and you do tend to think that all are bad. but i wouldnt say that that's the case.. :)
i deal with many pakistani guys on a daily basis and although i've had a few negative experiences (though alhamdulillah nothing extremely bad) i have found the majority to be decent..
hmm..and in response to one of the posts above...i think that education does not have anything to do with decency...the most educated person can be "indecent" and a completely illiterate person can be completely courteous and respectful..
Actually its not just Pakistani's...its all guys in general. Kalay guys love to stare as well...but Pakistani's and Latino's love to whistle and say stuff. And there have been some Middle Eastern guys at my school who just love to stare. I swear. It sometimes gets annoying.. Everyone has their own way.
Just a little tip...girls when you go on the daewoo(bus) in Pakistan cover your head because if your like one of the only girls in the bus you will be stared at as if you are the last girl in the world.
Rule of thumb: If the guy is hot whistling is no problem, if he is ugly then it is harrasment.
Some people are just too crude, I agree. But I have noticed that if one is hot girls usually dont mind the remarks, infact they encourage with a smile or running-fingers-thru-the-hair-gesture.
Its just the nature of the beast, guys love eye-candy. Its a problem only when they get rude about it. Looking keeps 'em healthy so to speak. There are rude guys in every country, every culture. But from what I've seen, it can be worse in countries like Pak where the sexes are kept separate. This just fosters mistrust between the sexes. When women have to go out wearing a tent to "keep them safe", when women not wearing burkha "deserve" what they get, when girls are kept hidden from society like they are some kind of magnet that would turn a male into a raping animal should he just set eyes on her....these are the attitudes that are fostered.
We had a family from Pak visit us. I took the mother and 3 year old boy to a store in the heat of August. The little boy saw a woman wearing a smallish tank top and he started yelling "Look Ammi, that lady NAKED!!! SHOOT her!" I mean come on, where does a 3 year old get these ideas??? Parents. Its up to us to educate our little ones.
cus all of them aint the same
i know quite a few of them too… lemme know if ur ever looking
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