Re: Pakistani Larkey
Focus of my question are the boys (of Pakistani origin only)
I am girl 24, born and spent whole life in Pakistan. Never went abroad. Extremely average Pakistani girl from middle class family, . who gets good education, learns handi roti, adapts to cultural and family values, has some ethics, moderate religious values, does parda, very normal upbringing with similar girls in school/college/uni life.
By all conventional defintiions of shareef larki, i am one. Now folks from other side of the world might think, I am part of the same old conservative, non liberal, mulla stupid system. They can have that opinion, but I am not. I like the way I am.
Now the real question.
One week ago, some family came to our house, looking a rishta for their son.
I have been having alot of thoughts since then.
So all my life, I have kept a good distance from the guys. Never had any phone/real affaris, never had given some one opportunity to flirt. maintained reasonable distance to where contact could not be avoided, such as class assignments, project groups. Even wore lose clothes where gathering was boys in greater number.
I have believed in saving myself for the right one. clear consicence and all that. I am not alone, to the best of my knowledge, a good number of girls are out there who are like me.
Now in your experiece, how many pakistani boys are out there? for the monogamic life, saving themselves for the right one too ?
Or do you had a husband for whom, you were the first and last?
Probably are some out there. If you as a Pakistani girl can keep within limits and know your boundaries etc there’s no reason why similar Pakistani men can’t exist out there.
Also you might want to look for a particular verse in the Qur’an which I cannot recall properly rn but it’s something along the lines of ‘good men are for good women and good women are for good men’. Surah 24 Ayah 26 I believe.