I always thought it would be pretty normal for a wife to give her husband a massage and vice versa. Saves the money and time spent to get it done by a professional, and what better way to get a message other than someone you know intimately. I like giving massages, and would expect my husband to soothe my acheing back/neck when Im 35.
But a funny incident made me realise that maybe Pakistani husbands dont really spoil their wives? My sister and I were at an all-ladies lunch in Detroit a couple of months ago, most of the girls were young with small kids. This one lady was complaining to everyone that she hadnt slept for days and finds it very hard to fall asleep at night. So my sister (whos quite religious), suggests to her that her husband give her a massage before bedtime. This lady was a little surprised I think and didnt look directly at my sister, but said something like “haan haan sar ka massage haina”. And my sister, quite the insistent thing, said no, I meant your back, shoulders everything. The lady was quite shocked I think and still didnt make eye contact with my sister, and again said something like “haan haan sar ka massage”.
My sister and I had a good laugh about it afterwards. But I mean I dont know, maybe she was embarassed to be discussing something like this in public, or is it really taboo to give your spouse a massage.
I hate giving massages to women (and ofcourse men too) but I have been forced to do the act in the past (not to men). I also don't care about receiving one. If she really wants to do it, fine, I will take it but do not expect me to return the favor in a similar fashion. There are other means of attaining relaxation. Many other ways ;)
Are you serious?? In our family, everyone seems to love giving and receiving massages, my mum and dad often make me massage them. Have you never received a foot massage funguy? I do shiatsu on my own feet (very relaxing) Youre wierd, maybe you dont like the touch of another human being. :p I think Ill tell my husband in advance that hed better expect to give me massages whenever I want one!
It sounds like a good idea...especially receiving a massage. Infact maybe I will get one soon as they offer massage service at the health club Im joining :)
Yeah FF, massage services at health clubs should be quite professional and they give members discount rates!
Shiatsu is a Japanese massage technique. "Shiatsu is a traditional hands-on Japanese healing therapy. It can help in a wide range of conditions - from specific injuries to more general symptoms of poor health. Shiatsu is a deeply relaxing experience and regular Shiatsu sessions help to prevent the build up of stress in our daily lives."
I went to a health farm with my mum a few years ago, for a week, and they showed us how to do it there.
Also Femme, when you start going for professional massages at your gym, you'll pick up more tips on how to massage. It's great. Your mother will be forever grateful!
