Good Afternoon,
Hope all of you having awesome afternoon. Many times i hear that men and women complaint about finding prospects for themselves here in West. Just a thought came to my mind today: How do your parents social gatherings here is like. Do they know lot of people?. What do your parents do to find rishtay for you if you are not the kind of person to find it yourself?.
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I am living here alone .. .. so no gathering, no community .. :s ..
but I have seen people living here have lots of gathering .. at least once in a month and those gatherings are more than enough to find rishta
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My parents have always been VERY active in meeting and making connections as they have 4 daughters Mashallah. My mom more than my dad actually.
She is active in community events, has gotten to know families, is very social, friendly, stellar reputation, etc etc etc. It helps to have good standing in the community when your children are ready to get married as people do their best to find out about families when it comes time for marriage.
I can honestly say, because of my parents we have been very lucky Alhumdulillah. Three married and one to go.
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My aunt and uncle, in the UK have loads of friends, both desi and non-desi. They are both very social, so no surprise here. But I've seen a lot of people who avoid non-desis as much as they can, and discourage their children from befriending them, esp their daughters.
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i think those who have been here long enuf, their children don't need help from their parents. those boys/gals don'ty believe in arranged marriages. i don't think parents ahve to worry too much coz kids are not gonna listen to them anyways.
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Reha- mA you're lucky!
My parents used to be the social kind, but I think due to the fact that they moved to US at a later stage in their life- they haven't adjusted that well socially here. They had a LOT of friends in other countries where they lived but they've become more isolated here. I wish they had more connections- it'd have been very helpful :)
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^ Do you live near a large muslim community? That usually does the trick.
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We do, that's not the problem. They have the opportunity to meet a LOT of people through work and the mosque but I think my parents just don't wanna socialize anymore, work and other stuff is taking its toll.
btw Hassan- usually mosques are very active in such matters. Ask your parents or family friends and they're usually happy to introduce you/your family and take it from there.
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Well Safora it's not about me. Alhamdullilah my parents have been active in the community for last 35 years. And definately not short of any rishtays!. We have tons of parties and invited to lots of them. But due to my work schedule it's been very hard to go out and meet new people. But i tell you in my free time i am very social and super active though.
You see what makes me think sometime is that, some people complaint about the fact that they can't seem to meet their prospects. So was trying to get an idea as to how your parents social gatherings are like.
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I think it really depends on the community. My extended family has been living here for the past 40 years, my grandfather was a very active member in the Muslim community, creating many Islamic organisations and many people know him in the desi community as well. However its been difficult to find rishtas for my female cousins here, all of their husbands either come from Pakistan or India.