Certain things in life don’t make sense. It is painfully clear at times that an action will not reap rewards yet we continue to do it.
I will never understand why ladies talk about their personal problems (with their husbands) to others. Every now and then, I hear a lady telling others of how her husband doesn’t pray namaz, or pay zakat, or smokes, or doesn’t communicate, or God knows what else. Sometimes she’ll go to her parents house and start on stories that show how bad a person her husband is. I simply don’t get it.
The only person that can solve her problems is her husband so the natural course of action would be to speak to him and NOT to all the family and friends. All it does is make your family a topic of conversation for others.
And its quite funny how the lady always sees herself as the victim; like she’s done nothing and everything is her husbands fault.
So the point of this thread is: Please don’t make your families laughing stocks of your community and don’t reveal secrets/kumzorees to others. You won’t accomplish much of anything.
I will never understand why ladies talk about their personal problems (with their husbands) to others. Every now and then, I hear a lady telling others of how her husband doesn't pray namaz, or pay zakat, or smokes, or doesn't communicate, or God knows what else. Sometimes she'll go to her parents house and start on stories that show how bad a person her husband is. I simply don't get it.
anil, is it ok for her to do that if you too are discussing some of her shortcomings &your personal problems with your parents?
The only person that can solve her problems is her husband so the natural course of action would be to speak to him and NOT to all the family and friends. All it does is make your family a topic of conversation for others.
woah, that's wisely said. If you mean it to work both ways, which I'm sure you do.
Certain things in life don't make sense. It is painfully clear at times that an action will not reap rewards yet we continue to do it.
something that our community lacks between a couple is COMMUNICATION. When u have a communication problem then that is when ladies go around and spill out their hearts....they do it so that they can get their feelings out. Sometimes when ladies communicate these things to their husbands they might think that "oh i am the man the bread winner who are u to tell me" And men do have this mentality so u can't deny it. I have seen a lot of this happen too and it is sad and it sucks....but how can we change them? We really can't....but we can change ourselves...that way our kids can learn from us and make wise decisions....
something that our community lacks between a couple is COMMUNICATION. When u have a communication problem then that is when ladies go around and spill out their hearts....they do it so that they can get their feelings out. Sometimes when ladies communicate these things to their husbands they might think that "oh i am the man the bread winner who are u to tell me" And men do have this mentality so u can't deny it. I have seen a lot of this happen too and it is sad and it sucks....but how can we change them? We really can't....but we can change ourselves...that way our kids can learn from us and make wise decisions....
True that some old fashioned males have this attitude but is going to outsiders going to help the matter? Are outsiders going to change that person's attitude?
The only thing that women should do is to have a civilized conversation with their husbands; have a proper sit-down and discuss matters.
Also, I've noticed that our ladies brain wash their kids against their fathers; it so wrong on so many levels.
this has always bothered me too. very often i see ppl close to me discussing their husband and his family and in a way conspirating against him. The wife always saying, "HES doing this..." like hes separate from her?, iv always thought in a marriage the husband and wife shud b able to communicate with each other.
how can another woman hear things about her husband from like lets say her sister or something? shudnt she want to discuss these problems with him instead?
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** Also, I've noticed that our ladies brain wash their kids against their fathers; it so wrong on so many levels.
**i agree with this and not just the father, it mostly includes the fathers side of the family too. thn the children grow up to actually realize wth were they thinking :s.
Certain things in life don't make sense. It is painfully clear at times that an action will not reap rewards yet we continue to do it.
Aye haye, itna nazook sa dil hai? :p Cmon, man up..
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I will never understand why ladies talk about their personal problems (with their husbands) to others. Every now and then, I hear a lady telling others of how her husband doesn't pray namaz, or pay zakat, or smokes, or doesn't communicate, or God knows what else. Sometimes she'll go to her parents house and start on stories that show how bad a person her husband is. I simply don't get it.
The only person that can solve her problems is her husband so the natural course of action would be to speak to him and NOT to all the family and friends. All it does is make your family a topic of conversation for others.
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True. It's not right to talk about a spouse's problems, or mock them or make fun of htem behind their back and if you have a problem wiht your spouse it's best to talk to them about it directly.
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And its quite funny how the lady always sees herself as the victim; like she's done nothing and everything is her husbands fault.
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Sometimes, a person needs to vent. Maybe the problem is serious and they dont' feel they can talk to their spouse about it. Maybe they just need to get something off their chest. It really just depends on the nature of hte "complaint" and the way it's done.
I'll be honest, I do see your point and i'm not trying to argue for the sake of arguing. I don't really understand how some women can just b*tch about their husbands/boyfriends all the time, especially on here (in blogs/jnals/threads). I know that if it were hte other way around, if it was my husband saying stuff about me, it'd break my heart. And....after getting married this attitude has extended to other people in my life as well. Maybe i haven't said anything about my husband, but in fits of anger have said alot of things about my friends, parents, brother in the past etc. And that's not right at all.