Re: Pakistan - A History in photographs
There was no fault at all in having a girl, like many Pakistani people my family members want to have as many boys as possible, the reason they always gave is that you have to marry the girls, do them away, the sons you keep. Even though this is 2014 and my family and Pakistani family friends live in Europe, they still have this strange thinking. Perhaps they are changing opinions now and are making less trouble about having daughters. That’s what I hope. Another reason is, they often see a daughter as a potentional threat to the family honour.
All this is ridicilous, yet I see even many Pakistani people with this mentality, not just in the Netherlands, but also in the U.K. and France and I met some in Pakistan with the same thoughts. My mother was even disappointed in me not being a boy, she often told me so during my entire life.
To me, my daughter is not a burden, like any teens, she has her ups and downs, but other than that, she’s a great daughter. I couldn’t have wished for any other daughter. (does her homework on time without me having to tell her, helps me out if needed, works hard, listens to me when I tell her something, we do have a different opinion on certain subjects, but we both respect each others opinion, sometimes my daughter is almost like a friend to me, we share our love for certain books and movies, she never talks back to me in a nasty way, I enjoy her company every day and couldn’t imagine life without her, yes, I know, she is growing up and will have her own life, I will get used to that because I want her to have a great life, when she is sad, I have a difficult time too, because I want to take her sadness away and unfortunately, I can’t always do that for her, there are certain troubles in life every human has to go through which no one can take away, and perhaps shouldn’t, because they are a part of life too, okay, now I have to stop typing, I’m going on and on about my child which is boring for other people, sorry if you’re still reading this)