deeba its a general perception in eastern man’s mind that his wife should bleed on the wedding nite..if she doesnt..n if the man is not decent enough to understand all hymen tearing logics how will a girl convince her man..maybe thaths the reason all aunties doesnt want young girls to use it they dont want girls to be in danger after their marriage..its nothing to do with islamic thinking so stop quoting islam here…so if someone doesnt want you to to do something its not bcoz of islam its maybe cultural boundries.