sometimes wen ur emotionally overwhelmed…u miss people who are not part of ur life anymore…u broke up…stopeed talking to them…for some reasons…but then again…u spent time together…a whole lot of time…and the memories keep coming back which make u forget the bitter reasons for the breakup n u miss them just miss them so bad and want to talk to them…see how they are doing and all…
all the reasons that u broke off for seem wrong…
sometimes u dnt really want to break ties…but it happens and it hurts…
rejecting love…when one person is so much involved and other cant see anything beyond frndship…and ur the one at breaking end…how do u deal with it…how do u let go…n dnt feel bad for the hurt u have caused…
I know EXACTLY how you feel. It hurts. However you have to somehow move forward. I can relate the most to this.
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u miss people who are not part of ur life anymore...u broke up...stopeed talking to them...for some reasons...but then again...u spent time together...a whole lot of time...and the memories keep coming back which make u forget the bitter reasons for the breakup n u miss them just miss them so bad and want to talk to them...see how they are doing and all...
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that happens so often, esp when that one person was the only ‘friend’ you had:hinna:
you just find other people to hang around with and never get too involved with the new ones…you should try to never go back in the past…be it for the good memories, because all memories do is hurt, be they good or bad…what’s in the past live it there..whatever negative thing that’s happening to you at the moment, try to find a new method to make yrself happy, to do something now..but going into the past is not a good idea
tht part in bold…have you been hurt, or you’ve hurt somoene else because you took him/her as a friend only?
ps:i know it’s not easy, been suffering from this for over 2yrs now:bummer:
how do we let go of the guilt of hurting someone....
if i had been hurt i wud hav moved on by now for sure...
but everytime i think abt his hurt n pain i caused him...it breaks me to tears...
i dint want him to endup like this...he was a gr8 gr8 person..happy n jolly all the time...n i was one of the reasons for his happiness....n the thought breaks me that he is not the same person anymore just because of me...
n i feel i shudnt have broken off at alll...i made the wrong decision..i've hurt him so bad n it makes me forget all the things that were hurting me in that relationship
Um just think of it this way that he will move on to something better and he will learn to be happy again. You will move on to something better too. You both are awesome people but just not compatible. You loved him and now that you are no longer in that relationship you still respect him as a person and this is why you would want the best for him. Just pray for him. It will hurt but time will heal you.
i've been through that situation, and no dubaiwali people dont move on so easily...
LA maybe try contacting the person and see how's he getting along....and if you dont get a positive response, try getting over it then, at least you know, that you did try to smoothen things up
Well excuse me but I know pretty well what this kind of situation feels like. I have been through it twice. I can't disclose stuff but lets just say I know better than you. Kkthanxbye.
i tried to explain and smoothen things up...
but its been more than a year now n im afraid to contact him again altough i know hez still holding on to it...but i feel guilty n bad
^My mother always used to tell us a story when we were young...with the moral "if you look back, you will turn into a stone". Let bygones be bygones. Whatever that has been done in the past, you should let it remain in the past unless you did not apologize if you feel you harmed this person in some way. If you have guilt, try n overcome it on ur own rather than making that person a part of it again. Sometimes, adopting a distance is much better for yourself and for others. If you left someone, you left...if someone left you, they should be gone for good. As hard as this may sound, it will save you and others (think about those who are now a part of his life and will be affected by your decisions or their relation with him will be affected). Once you have made a decision and you feel your decision was correct and justified, then stick to it.
trash who knows more, cause i cant know of yr situation nor can you know of mine…and well we each know how things are accordin to our own problems, and am sure with our experience we can help others:)
if you’ve tried it once then that’s more than enough…get on with yr life…HQ here has given a really good advice:k: try following it:)
