overweight husband

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agree. talk to him, maybe something is bothering him? stressing him out and causing him to stuff his face? also, suggest going to the doctor. maybe you can make an appt for him and yourself (so you can show him you both want to get assessed). also, encourage him to be healthy for YOU and HIMSELF. dont tell him he is fat and ugly and blah blah blah. focus more on health, long life, going places, doing things together, etc

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AH man poor bloke can't even eat now that he's married. I bet all his life he tried to keep a thin size just so he could get fat after he got married. But he had another thing coming. Poor dude indeed. Lets give a standing ovation for our fallen brother to the vows of marriage life. Salutes

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You see..in addition to good suggestions given by Reha and nabz. I would suggest you to make healthy food and less amount. Go out to walk with him whenever you can. Tell him..how smart he looked..when he was bit healthy. Right now..he needs ya're support..though he pretends he doesn't care.

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overweight husband

The problem is solved now! Yesterday my husband and my MIL was talking on the phone. suddenly she told him that she saw some some pictures of us and that my husband looked so old and fat infront of me. That he should lose some weight because people are making fun of him plus she told him he is loosing hair which I don't care about. I only care about his weight anyway today he went running with me for an hour!
For the first time in my marriage life I felt like my MIL was on my side on this matter lol

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u kno what.. i have the same problem.. my husband Loves food and so when he eats it looks like this mite be the first or the last time he is eating.. i realized after a long time that this was coz he wasnt eating enuff during the day and then when he got hungry he would just go out and get the most unhealthy thing to eat.. drink coffee with sugar and eat cookies.. what i would do that instead of stopping him from eating.. make sure he is eating some thing or another every two to three hours and that stuff is tasty yet healthy.. fruit, yogurt.. cheese crackers.. and stuff.. if he feels full he wont want to eat a lot at one time.. also for dinners try to make things with less carbs like baked chicken and fish and stuff.. and let him eat his fill.. if u keep telling him not to eat he will Surely eat more...i remember when my husband was gaining weight my mother in law instead of telling him to NOT eat.. or to look at what he is eating.. would fill him up with low calorie food.. like water melon and such.. like literally aur khao aur khao.. and that surely stopped him from eating a lot at the dinner table.. i think its a much better way to deal with this than the nagging and expecting the men to want to look good. just saying

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^ Having family prepare and keep healthy snacks at hand would really help.

My hubby doesn't have a motapa problem, he just loves his frikking gosht and I wish we could go without chicken/meat once or twice a week.

I think I need to shove the fruit bowl in his face to make him it eat.

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I Will try your way too. I can only control what he eat in the weekends. Because in the weekdays we are both are busy with working and only eat dinner together on Mondays because of I get home later than he sometimes

Thanks for the advice.

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Most people who have a food addiction use food to mask emotions and stress. It doesn't sound like your husband is just hungry. He's using food to make himself feel better. But it's obviously causing some marriage problems. I don't blame you. You want to be attracted to your spouse. The approach I would take is to tell him honestly that he is gaining too much weight. In a non-confrontational way, let him know the health risks. And then last tell him you don't find him as attractive as you used to. BAM. That will sting. His ego might shatter. But you can't tip toe around the reality of the situation.

If you prepare really healthy meals and go for walks in the evenings together, will he secretly pig out later? He probably will. If he's getting drive thru fast-food without you knowing, he probably has a food addiction. You can't fix him and you can't change him. He has to see the light. And he has to want to change. You can only explain your side honestly. And if he cares, it will matter to him.

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so?? hows it going?

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I find that hard to believe (That he;s gone from a small to XL). Im a medium and only weigh about 170 pounds

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He's back to small.

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Exactly!

Well Said.

Yay!

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I'm glad your MIL spoke to him, but I would still take him for a check-up so he can also gain some sort of an eye-opener to the risks of being overweight and also get a rough idea of what a healthy weight is for his height and frame.
Also - I suggest getting him a water bottle and making it a must for him to drink water BEFORE he eats. It only takes 21 days to form a habit and if he sticks to it, it'll get easier for him over time.
And restock the home with healthy food options, I know you go to the gym and he can eat out - but any bad food in the home will also be a trigger for more unhealthy eating. Water really helps though curb hunger and it makes you feel full faster. So I would definately get him to drink a glass of water before eating each meal.

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#sadtimes](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=sadtimes) when a dude can’t eat as much as he wants..

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Dehydration? Maybe he doesn't drink enough water and he's mistaking hunger for thirst. Could you suggest he take a big bottle of water to work every day and fill up on water and juicy fruits during the day so he won't be as famished when he's looking for lunch or dinner?

Buy healthier snacks that taste good too and try not to keep temptations around the house so when he opens the kitchen cabinets or fridge door all he sees are good, tasty healthy food choices. Couldn't you join him in eating healthier so he has a healthy choices partner and so he doesn't feel like he's alone in trying to watch what he eats.

I was reading about how humans tend to replace lack of sex with food. Hopefully that department is going good for both of you. Sorry for being so direct regarding this.

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How long have you been married? Some people lose weight for the wedding and then go back to their old habits. Also, since you mention hair loss, could it be that he has a thyroid problem? It is worth it to get checked out.

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Stop cooking. Feed him salad. Ask him to do house chores.

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So you run in the morning, then swimming, then gym ... And you want him not to feel left out?

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Sounds ike worms actually...or maybe a thyroid issue. Any medical professionals here?

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yay!!congrats:D