Just wanted some quick replies. i’ll summarise the situation:
Couple A and couple B are talking about couple C in couple As house.
Couple As little baby is in the meanwhile playing and somehow manages to press the redial button on the phone…and the phone rings at couple Cs house.
Couple A and B continue to talk about couple C…but nothing bad…just that that couple C’s husband is abit strict and the wife doesnt stick up for herself etc etc.
meanwhile the phone is still on and couple C most likely are listening to the conversation…after some time a phone call comes to Couple As mobile telling them to put their home phone back on the hook cuz its dialed them by mistake.Couple C also knows that couple B is at Couples As house cuz they mention it…hence they mustve HEARD the conversation.
what to do? it wasnt that couple A and B were talking badly but then again couple C may not have liked what couple A and B were saying about them…
how should couple A and B deal with it? couple C seemed abit embarassed after meeting them…did they hear it or not? how to deal with couple C face-to-face?
Why is C decided to listen to someone else's conversation in the first place? A/B might have been taking about something else? C is at more fault than A/B. As for A/B as TLK said, only if they follow religion properly, they will not be in trouble like this in the first place.
this site should be named backbitersclub.com buray kam ka anjam itna hi problematic hota hai. For women its not very uncommon to backbite lekin yahan to COUPLES shuru huay huay hain. Its funny i mean its too sissy for a man to be a chughal khor:P
this site should be named backbitersclub.com buray kam ka anjam itna hi problematic hota hai. For women its not very uncommon to backbite lekin yahan to COUPLES shuru huay huay hain. Its funny i mean its too sissy for a man to be a chughal khor:P
Ya, but its the IN thing nowdays. Why let women have all the fun?? :p
AB did not intend for couple C to hear the conversation…and they didn’t have the intention to hurt them either. If couple C is pretending they didn’t hear anything…then I think couple A/B should just chalk this up to learning experience…and also pretend that they (couple C) heard nothing.
^^^ And AB can indirectly try to compensate for the unintentional gheebat. In a social gathering…couple A/B can openly praise or compliment couple C on their relationship or something. So that would be like restoring/building couple C’s reputation that may have been affected by the gheebat.
NOW IF… couple A/B has noticed that Couple C is behaving in a distant/cold manner and they don’t want the relationship to be ruined…then A/B can try to approach couple C and start a discussion about the issue by asking, “It seems that you’re upset and if there’s anything that we’d done to offend you, please forgive us because we wouldn’t do it deliberately.” By starting the discussion like that…maybe Couple C might forgive…or they might chose to bring up the phone conversation…and IF they bring it up…that would be an opportunity for A/B to talk about it/clear the air.
****Yes, we should be careful about what we say and the surroundings. And of course couple A/B did not want to to hurt couple C. But I also believe that things happen for a reason. And MAYBE some GOOD might have even come out of this accidental situation. For example, maybe Mr. C might reflect over his strict behavior and try to relax a bit…and maybe Mrs. C might try to become more stronger or communicate her needs better. It’s possible that couple C might be offended…but the whole scenario could have been a wake-up call for their relationship as well.
We were not doing any gheebat....we were just trying to understand why she is coping with the strict behaviour...maybe after this phone call maybe couple C's wife will realise that she should stick up for herself.
