when somebody cheats on you,
how do you let go?
one thing you can do is: you do not over rate the cheating.
that is the best which this person can give to you, as a token of their presence in your life.
once, you know, you can either weep, or get angry or feel cold and sad, in disbelief.
but, the abject nature of that lie, that selfish face, which did not care to show itself in leaving.
and never ever tried to seek apology.
and you are ready to say, “this relationship or marriage is over”,
at that moment, don’t over rate the cheating.
what else would you do, if ever that comes to be the low point of your relationship with your very significant partner or life partner?
what do u mean by over rate the cheating ?
In any relationship trust is a huge part ( i know coming from me sounds hypocritical) but generally speaking, it is an integral part of a relationship and cheating is exactly the opposite so y wont u over rate it. Y wont u make a big deal outta it.
It is always hard to get over cheating. There is no silver bullet, a lot has to do with trust being shattered and betrayal. It is a growing stage. Even though people seem like they have learned something from the experience, they can not guarantee anything. The best is not to change your perception and hope for love and better life.
in such discomfort, l
loop holes wont work. alibis wont at all be a reliable crutch.
taking a hike wont either, as the conscience is the most constant guard of one's own wrong decisions or no decisions that were not made at the right time.
the best thing one can do is that not be a cheating person oneself.
even though the right of the betrayed and the cheated is to totally have nothing to do with the betrayer or the cheater.
yet, if the hurt and the unkind reaction is set aside, there is much to make peace with - the acceptance of the behavior which this person accorded to the person who is cheated or betrayed.
and but when a good measure of the man is taken esp when he is not present, & while recalling all that he ever said, and all what he ever shared witout attaching any significance to his own words, one would be, as a sincere woman, never satisfied as to what limited that man into being a cheating individual.
that is enough to enable the thought in the mind of a caring woman, that the man does not know his own self.
the woman knew and knows him better than he ever would know his self. and it ends here, into a beginning of a time, along the line of which someday, that man will know what he has gained by being a betrayer or cheater.
thus, it is better to expect a man to be that way.
& so over rating a repulsive reaction to his betrayal or cheating is not worthy.
what is worthy is that the cheater or betrayer is able to own up to his misdeed and reckon with that, accept his misdeed to the betrayed or cheated person, not wrong anyone else again like that and be on guard to prevent others from such misdeed.