How many of you know couples where one person is more outgoing while the other prefers to stay home? say for xample, one person likes to socialize with family/inlaws, while the other person also enjoys meeting friends or just going out?
So how does it go? does one spouse try to get the other one to stop socializing so much? or does one make them become more outgoing? or is it more fo a balance and meeting halfway?
Re: Outgoing spouse
depends on the individuals, think of socializing styles and social events for both individuals as distinct spheres, now start overlapping them, there are things one does on their own with their friends or family, and then socializing that they do together. how much of an overlap there is really varies by people. but there should be a good amount of overlap..not a tiny fraction, and not so much that a tiny fraction is available for own things
Re: Outgoing spouse
lets say one spouse prefers not to socialize but they dont stop their spouse from going anywhere at all...
i mean its better than "if im nto going then ure not going either" attitude that some people can have?
Re: Outgoing spouse
its better but there has to be some sharing..u do things the other person likes to share experiences..helps with a relationship in my view, and that requires some effort.
but worse is when one does not want to do something and will not allow the other to go either.
Re: Outgoing spouse
I would be more than happy in my seclusion if he wants to go out with friends, and I would be more than happy to hang out with my friends if he wants to be in seclusion. I have no issues with that.
I like my alone time, thanks very much.
Re: Outgoing spouse
We both love going out on our own and with close family(both sides) to the max.
When it comes to friends we like socializing but to a certain extent. When it comes to his friends with families we socialize as a family. He goes alone when it's only a guys thing.
When it comes to my friends/my side of extended family he's not very interested ..so apart from some occasions I hang out with mine on my own and I don't mind that at all.
Re: Outgoing spouse
We are one such couple :)
I and my family are very social ....out going ..meetups ...etc while my wife is not all that social. We had our fair share of problems on this early on but now we both have adjusted accordingly. I have cut down my socializing programs and she has added few in her life.
I also like to travel ...see places..explore things..she is not one of those people ...tourism is simply not her trade. In our early days of marriage, I took her to NY, DC etc and here are her pearls of wisdom after seeing Twin Towers "aab in buildings ko keya daikhana".
So now whenever we go out on holidays I have to wake her up in hotel to see early bird shows and stuff sometimes we do have small combat in hotel too.
Her found of cleanliness is main hurdle in enjoying the holidays.... oh you cant sit on this stone.... looks people have dogs here they must be peeing on this floor..... dont sit there ... aaah you touch the chair in restaurant ..go wash your hands before you eat .... aaaa I love her! :)