How many times does it happen to you that you go to a davat/wedding/get together, enjoy the time there and get the contact information of some of the people there…and later your efforts to build or maintain a friendship fall flat? They don’t respond to any emails or text messages, or interact with you very much (if ur both on facebook).
I understand people can have busy lives and building friendships usually requires alot of mutual effort..it can be unintentional as well…
however…doesn’t it feel kind of weird sometimes that the person doesn’t bother to talk to you at all, and then when they meet you they’re like your best friend ever?
It can appear odd. I have friends that I'll run into at gatherings....girls that I really like and have known for years from high school. At the functions....we'll make sketchy plans (nothing definite with a date and time) to have lunch or go shopping or watch a movie. But it doesn't always materialize........because we're so busy (me with my job....them with their kids, etc). We hardly talk on the phone....and I've nothing at all against them. Since we know each other well....there's an understanding that things come up....people get busy,
If it's someone that you JUST met......it's odd that they'd be acting like your best friend (considering they don't know you well). I've seen some people who are kinda "over-the-top" when they meet you.....lol. Dunno why. Could be that they're not too active on facebook.......or they're busy as you said.....or lazy in making the effort to form a new friendship. You could try calling them as opposed to communicating via facebook...invite them over, etc. Some people are better with communication when they see you in person...or hear your voice. Everyone's different.
It can appear odd. I have friends that I'll run into at gatherings....girls that I really like and have known for years from high school. At the functions....we'll make sketchy plans (nothing definite with a date and time) to have lunch or go shopping or watch a movie. But it doesn't always materialize........because we're so busy (me with my job....them with their kids, etc). We hardly talk on the phone....and I've nothing at all against them. Since we know each other well....there's an understanding that things come up....people get busy,
If it's someone that you JUST met......it's odd that they'd be acting like your best friend (considering they don't know you well). I've seen some people who are kinda "over-the-top" when they meet you.....lol. Dunno why. Could be that they're not too active on facebook.......or they're busy as you said.....or lazy in making the effort to form a new friendship. You could try calling them as opposed to communicating via facebook...invite them over, etc. Some people are better with communication when they see you in person...or hear your voice. Everyone's different.
Yeah...it happens... I used to get annoyed and think thats not right or not fair or they're not sincere friends..but its not that at all... everyone is different.
And I was talking about people you've known for yearssss....For me personally, taking the time out to call someone requires just as much effort as it does to visit them face to face.... however when you dont have any other means of contacting them except through facebook and they don't respond well to you, then its most definitely a sign that they dont care to speak to you outside of certain gatherings.
I think it is also the level of interaction one wants, not everyone has to become a best pal, there are always those acquaintances whom you have friends in common with, you run into them in events, enjoy talking to them and that is it, why force it to be more.
How many times does it happen to you that you go to a davat/wedding/get together, enjoy the time there and get the contact information of some of the people there....and later your efforts to build or maintain a friendship fall flat? They don't respond to any emails or text messages, or interact with you very much (if ur both on facebook).
I understand people can have busy lives and building friendships usually requires alot of mutual effort..it can be unintentional as well...
however....doesn't it feel kind of weird sometimes that the person doesn't bother to talk to you at all, and then when they meet you they're like your best friend ever?
yes i agree...i dont know why they donot reply...well i can understand that they are busy but it will take only 5 minutes to send a text msg or reply on facebook
when i go on a dawat or wedding, usually i meet lots of new people and make lots of new friend and if i send them a msg , they would never reply back and if i meet them again then they would act like we are best friends....
well i am too busy with my work and classes and i dont get much time to call my releatives, cousins or friends but still i get some time and send e-mail or text msg to them
I think it is also the level of interaction one wants, not everyone has to become a best pal, there are always those acquaintances whom you have friends in common with, you run into them in events, enjoy talking to them and that is it, why force it to be more.
Ummmm… I’m guilty of that. I’m really bad at attending and returning phone calls and thankfully, my existing friends know that and understand that about me. Full time work, my daughter, hubby and home keep me too busy.
The good thing is that whenever I meet these friends, even after months… we are all masti mazaq as usual
I’m soooo bad at making and maintaining friendships
Yeah guilty as charged. Apart from the usual people i see and hang with everyday, no time to think of other people and no time to actually plan to meet them and stay in touch. If i run into them we'll have a good time and that's that. Sara have people call you and try to stay in touch with you, not the other way round :)
Yeah guilty as charged. Apart from the usual people i see and hang with everyday, no time to think of other people and no time to actually plan to meet them and stay in touch. If i run into them we'll have a good time and that's that. Sara have people call you and try to stay in touch with you, not the other way round :)
