I personally think that if someone is so easily able to put you out of their mind, not think about you, not miss you, if you’re not around.. they were never your friend to begin with..
I jsut don’t think its that easy to forget someone that you supposedly are friends with them. I have a few friends that I do miss terribly and that I wish I cud hang out with more but coz of work/school/whatever, I understand I can’t hang out with them physically. BUT i also don’t think that it takes much effort or time or money to email or call or message someone. I just can’t buy that excuse “i’m too busy!” I dont think it takes too much time and effort to email or msg or call someone nce in a while.
When I was in Pakistan, i was pissed off because noone (except 1-2) bothered to keep in touch with me while I was there. I’d send them texts and get nothing in return and they’d tell me (2 months later) they recieved it but never responded. I mean really.. does it take that much effort? Am I being too annoying or chipku or somethin?? I have friends who hang out every single day, are always at each others houses, go to movies, little get-togethers, throw each other birthday parties etc; I rarely, if ever, do any of that stuff, though I think I would like to. Am I really asking too much or what?
I know what you maen, although most my friends are always there to hang out, watch movies and do get-togethers, they werent there for me when i needed them the most. And their excuse was well we thougth you might be busy with other people. I guess my definition of friends is totally different from them so i decided to just be friends their way.
hehe i know what you mean I think its cuz we dont understand the difference between a true friend and an acquaintance. We are so quick to label anyone we hang out with “friend” and then end up getting hurt.
I don’t consider many people friends.. alot of ppl are just acquaintances, ure right, ppl do throw around that word wayyyy too easily.. like, theres this 1 person i barely talk to outside of school, never hung out wit him, had a real conversation wit him, and when he found out me and another friend were english majors, he was like" i cant believe two ofmy** close friends** are english majors"..
I do not buy the ‘busy’ excuse either. No matter HOW busy you are, u can find a minute in your life to return somebody’s phone call. I dont think I’ve ever done that to a friend that i really cared about and the ppl whose fone calls i dont reutnr regularly know that i am not really into talking to them cuz i have made that clear to them. If you dont wanna be friends then instead of saying, i’ve been busy, and end up pissing me off, just say you dont wanna be friends and watch if i waste another sec of my life on you
Sara I know what you mean…I guess its better to have one or two close friends than a bunch of people pretendign to be your friends. It feels good to know I am not the only person taken advantage of :-/
Sara:hugz: i know what you mean… I don’t buy the “busy” excuse either, i am busy but i always make time for ppl i wanna make time for, its a lame excuse. There are different types of friends and different levels of friendships. even i got tons of acquaintances and very, very few good friends. And trust me you are not alone, i always send my friends txts, email, or call to tell them that they are imp to me and stuff. you are not being chipku, caring ppl like us are rare hehehe
p.s its sad you are not in Toronto, or i am not in NY, we would’ve been best buddies
well i think its perfectly alright for u to get in touch with ur frenz EVERY day. I got a best fren who i have known for 13yrs...when we were in the same school...we used to stay togather always...always calling & messaging.
But now that we r in different schools...we got different frenz..we cant call each other daily & stuff...but she is still my best fren...& whenever we get the time...we do meet up & catch up & have the greatest time ever.
So i guess it makes up for all the others days. :)
Sara you are so right. I feel the same way. I don't call it a true friendship when people stop getting in touvh only because they're busy. It takes a couple of minutes to write an e-mail. I always like to be in touch with my friends. even with some of my work friends who don't work here any more.
I've noticed it in US more than Pak. Over here a lot of times, firendships are not long lasting.
But you shouldn't feel bad because it happens to all of us. Besides its always nice to have a couple of best buddies than a whole group of people who aren't exactly true friends.
A person who is willing to socialize with you, willing to visit you twice a week, willing to call/email you thrice a day, but deserts you when you really need her is not your friend.
On the other hand, a person who doesn't socialize much, doesn't reply to your every text message/email, doesn't bother to call you every other day, but comes forward to give you material or emotional help when you need it, is your true friend. The people who came to my help when I needed it were not those I trusted. Those who unexpectedly helped me are the trusted ones. Adversity separates the the wheat from the chaff. Not all those we buddy up with deserve the title of friend.
I think its cuz we dont understand the difference between a true friend and an acquaintance. We are so quick to label anyone we hang out with “friend” and then end up getting hurt.
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