When visiting or getting visited by family with a problem child, how do you deal with it? Especially if the kid is from the inlaws’ side?
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u bite your lip and thank god he’s only here for a few hours. 
it’s only when they mess with my tech stuff do i go all ballistic. 
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How about a displaying a subtle grimace (don't forget to smile).....and making a comment with a subtle hint.....such as..."Huh..WOW....oh my....you certainly have a very hyper/active child. I imagine you have your hands full."
^If mommy is smart enough.....she'll feel embarrassed enough.....and take the hint. Maybe she'll pull junior or pinky/bubbly to the side and scold/blackmail them into displaying better behavior.
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Children are very fickle and easy to manipulate, there is no such thing as a 'problem child', adults should learn how to adapt and be the adult.
Poor little bairns.
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If you know well in advance that little heathens will be paying you a visit...........then it might help to remove any items that you don't want them to get their grubby little paws on such as your jewelry, lap top, cell phone, etc.
You can also arrange for activities that can keep the kids busy such as a movie....board games.....etc. Maybe have a designated room for the kids. And remind them of the rules (clean up, don't break things, etc)..................IN FRONT..........of their parents. That way mom and dad are aware of your nicely-worded rules.....and can reinforce them as well.
I think a lot of it depends upon how you word things. If a kid is touching belongings.....then in front of the parents.....you can nicely say, "You know I forgot to put that away. How about you play with this?" *I don't think that parents would mind. Or if the kid is really rowdy....there's nothing wrong with saying, *"Could you please use your inside voice....we don't want to disturb the neighbors." Then distract with an activity such as movie. I doubt parents would mind that.....they shouldn't.
And for some kids who are just being rambunctious to seek negative attention.......it might be better not to give it to them.
^If mommy is smart enough.....she'll feel embarrassed enough.....and take the hint. Maybe she'll pull junior or pinky/bubbly to the side and scold/blackmail them into displaying better behavior.
If mommy was smart enough, her child wouldn't be problematic in the first place. From what I see it's mommys and daddys themselves playing the biggest role in developing a misbehaved child.
Their child hits another - they sit there and do nothing
Their child plays with something he's not supposed to - they sit there and do nothing
Their child yells and screams - they sit there and do nothing
Their child calls them a bad name - they STILL sit there and do nothing
What have we got at the end? A little trouble maker that is mommy and daddy ki aankhon ka tara but constant trouble for others.
(have personally witnessed all of the above in a couple cases)
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If you are the one visiting, theres not much you can do. If they are the ones visiting you, I agree - you need to prepare ahead of time. Set up an area for the kids to play and show it to them when they arrive. If they get out of control, get up from your visit and corral the kids back to the play area and stay there with them until things are back in control. Keep doing this - the parents who are visiting you should get the idea and step in themselves.
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But parents also need to take responsibility and address inappropriate behavior in their children. If they don’t, THEY are the problem.