A cousin of mine just got married to a girl of his choice, when his mother had actually chosen someone else, but nevertheless the marriaged followed through and they got married, now the mother-in-law lives in a different city from her son who lives in a another city due to his job. The mother-in-law wants the newly wedded bahu to live with her while the son lives alone and can come visit her on the weekends, he wants to take her with him, I don’t understand why she even thought them living separately would work, I mean isn’t the whole point of being married is to be with your significant other, I don’t know on what basis the mother-in-law proposed such a deal? Comments.
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ok maryam.. let me give you my 2cents... the reason she wants bahu to live with her is that she is still a little naraz from her son's decision and just to bug the crap out of him she wants bahu to live with her.. so that she can analyze her and "nuks" nikal sakain.. i knw it sounds bad and well it is bad but i am afraid too many desi ppl do this.. moms want bahu to take care of them even more than bahu can take care of her own husband..
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mother in law is a B trying to be all contorling.. if your friend stays with her i am sure her life will be a hell. she should be with her hubby.
if he lives alone that also gives him oppurtunity to check around other girls.
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Their newlyweds why should she stay with her mother in law????? I mean what kind of a mother would want her son to be alone in another city??? especially when he is married and has a wife who can be there with him and take care of him.
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F'ed up pakistani people.
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Good for him for being able to marry the girl of his choice. Not many people are capable of standing up to their parents in such cases.
Anyway, I get the feeling the mother may possibly just want to spend some time with the new bahu, get to know her personality, her habits, etc. The mother should understand that it isn't very practical for the wife to be living with the her instead of her son. In fact, it wreaks of interference and will only cause trouble down the road. If neither the husband and wife want that, then they should tell the mother that it's not possible.
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usual pakistani saas - bahu thing, ends up in flying bailans etc..
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Your cousin should make sure that his wife lives with him and explain that to his mother. If he does it in a friendly way without creating a fight out of nothing, the mother will understand it. (Unless she is a really, really, really nasty person.)