The thing with the ferber method is that its easy to pen down but extremely hard to follow.
The sound of crying stresses parents out.
Just think of all the times you've been to the bank or shops and there was a baby crying, how annoying and stressful the sound was. And its not even your own baby.
The way some parents can listen to their own baby crying and not do anything, u think their kid was singing a lullabye :( but i kno it's really hard for them...its not easy for anyone really
yea true i do hate seeing/hearing babies cry. But if your baby isnt sleeping at night…you both are gonna be crying.
Besides it’s not like you are going to do this method forever…if the baby is 6 months it may take only 3 days (each baby is different of course but that’s how long it took my nieces and nephews) and the amount of crying gets less and less each passing day until one day you put em down and they know that once their head hits the mattress…it’s time to sleep
It’s all about how much a parent can handle. You just have to tell yourself that this is only short term and it’ll best in the long run. It’s must be hard though…i am sure.
You don't do CIO- ferber/wesibeth any sort of thing till they are 12 weeks gestational and 12 lb. This is what i've heard from all sleep experts.
At one month they change so much...not sleeping in the crib isn't a big deal..really it isn't. Wait till after 7 weeks or so to start encouraging crib sleeping and good sleep habits- Mindell has an excellent book on this and talks about what to do for the first 3-4 months etc. (for ex. starting a night time routine, getting a good structure/time to their sleep, etc)
You can try rockers/swings etc in the interim....it will change so much and they adjust don't worry about "bad" habits being there forever...they can be broken!
Oh and FWIW i did CIO a mix of ferber/weisbleth using Mindell's suggestions at 7 month and it took 3weeks for us....but it worked. My daughter still needs a bit of CIO/structure if we travel....and i never ever CIO when she's ill but she is a fantastic sleeper at 18 months now! She waves good night and kisses me once i put her down to bed and goes to sleep.
amelie - yeah i know that 1 month is waay too early for disciplining sleep habits, because most of the time it's something that is bothering the baby, and it's not just about getting attention.
for everyone's future reference, here is our magic trick :p
we put one of my shirts in the crib, and warmed up the crib with a hot bottle. then after the baby fell asleep, we took out the hot bottle, and lay her down. she could still smell me, subconciously thinking i was holding her in a warm hug...and ole' we got 3.5 hours of sleep before she woke us up!!
The little one probably loves the warmth of mama's body and the comforting sound of her heartbeat! And she's only one month, still remembering being in the womb all the time...
Best thing is to make sure she's very snuggly warm. And if all else fails, heck why not let her stay with you a bit longer.
We have many nights where we find ourselves wishing we went for the "california king-sized" mattress instead of the queen size since all 3 boyz end up with us lol! If it makes them feel secure then why not.
Mamaof3, you must be a wonderful mother!!
Our youngest sleeps in between. I will miss his small hugs when he will move to his own bed later this year.
The little one probably loves the warmth of mama's body and the comforting sound of her heartbeat! And she's only one month, still remembering being in the womb all the time...
Best thing is to make sure she's very snuggly warm. And if all else fails, heck why not let her stay with you a bit longer.
We have many nights where we find ourselves wishing we went for the "california king-sized" mattress instead of the queen size since all 3 boyz end up with us lol! If it makes them feel secure then why not.
Our kids sleep with us till atleast one year. The girl still comes at night to our bedroom almost every night or early morning. Sometimes the older boy just declares, "today i am sleeping in your room". So we keep a mattress under the bed. Yesterday my daughter came around 7 am and started shaking me get up its too late now. I new her intention. As i got out the mattress she slid under the sheets in my place.
amelie - yeah i know that 1 month is waay too early for disciplining sleep habits, because most of the time it's something that is bothering the baby, and it's not just about getting attention.
for everyone's future reference, here is our magic trick :p
we put one of my shirts in the crib, and warmed up the crib with a hot bottle. then after the baby fell asleep, we took out the hot bottle, and lay her down. she could still smell me, subconciously thinking i was holding her in a warm hug...and ole' we got 3.5 hours of sleep before she woke us up!!
smart!
i'll remember this trick till i have my own baby someday inshallah
i want to have my baby sleep next to me for a good few months :( i feel like it's such a beautiful bond.. and the baby deserves it too. 2 months is way too young to be placed in a crib alone.
