other people giving ur child sweet food?

[nadz123]

Re: other people giving ur child sweet food?

its annoying when they say oh we had kids too....well good for u, and u brought them up, now its my turn so please go awayyy and just play with the kids or feed them whats good for her, dont give whatever u wish, just because u used to do it too, doesnt mean its good for the baby. i hate the answeres i get everytime i say pls dnt give her that mostly its ohhh kuch nahi hotaaaa.

[Sara516]

Re: other people giving ur child sweet food?

@Jolie

WOW…Hatred for Nadz? ROFL Errr calm down, this is just an internet forum and hatred is too strong of an emotion to be felt for a random person in cyber world.

You do realize that information about constipation was added later? If thats the case than in her laws are completely wrong, but if just a case of confused **ABCD mothers feeling overly suspicious and loathing anyone who comes a foot close to their babies than they’re just sad bunch of losers. It just hurts their ego to see someone else taking a so called control over their child. Read her OP again, and you can easily get the impression she’s just having another one of her I can’t stand my SIL/MIL fit, which is sadly often the case of some idiotic desi yet I’m not desi women in the name of ‘modern’ parenting. **Yes in twenty/thirty years time all these ‘oh we hate desi aunts’ will moan when their children will say that your style of parenting is backward, unsympathetic and oh so dangerous, just like our grandparents style of parenting was considered backward in our mothers time. Can anyone here gurantee that they would never ever repeat the age old saying ‘oh beta thats how I used to do it when you were young’ when your children become parents, would you like being looked down and having people in up in arms over this?

Yes this whole melodramatic dogma about my child my child is my child is nauseating, the child is at the end of the day is also a part of the family, you are living in a fools world if you think you can just show middle finger to the dada daddi, nana nani, puhpo, khala mamoo. They have every right to contribute to your child’s development and have their little moments.

Having said that, nadz’ in laws are at completely wrong end here, but this just my issue with confused abd self hating desis who just like a to make a big deal out of everything.

Only one who should chill is you–your hatred against ABCDs is very clear then

Just get over yourself

PS, since we agree on how the in laws in this scenario are wrong, how would you handle it?

@Jolie

No I don’t but I’ve been at a receiving from my sisters/cousins who mashAllah have kids. You mothers don’t realize but sometime your snappy, disrespectful attitude and behaviour can seriously hurt the other person who has nothing but all the best intentions for your child. And its not a good thing. Because your behaviour too can lead to a build up in other person, which will not help you in either short or long term. You may get some points for following parenting books but you lose so much respect as a person.

I think thats just my personal experience maybe not all mothers act and sound like total b**tch.

Nobody can be sweet and kind and patient 100% of the time, and really…if we can’t be snappy at our mothers once in a while, then who can be we be comfortable enough to show a bit of frustration from time to time.

maybe you are always patient with kids and always sweet and kind to everyone else, so why don’t you help out and give useful advice instead of bringing your issues here and calling mothers b*tches?

[Sara516]

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[Jolie]

Re: other people giving ur child sweet food?

@Sara516

Only one who should chill is you–your hatred against ABCDs is very clear then

Just get over yourself

PS, since we agree on how the in laws in this scenario are wrong, how would you handle it??

Ofcourse who wouldn’t hate such sad ‘confused’ species ? I don’t really anything against normal ABD or BBD (I’m a BBD myself), its the people that come with big Capital ‘C’ that pisses me off. And I wish I could get over it.

Nobody can be sweet and kind and patient 100% of the time, and really…if we can’t be snappy at our mothers once in a while, then who can be we be comfortable enough to show a bit of frustration from time to time.

maybe you are always patient with kids and always sweet and kind to everyone else, so why don’t you help out and give useful advice instead of bringing your issues here and calling mothers b*tches?

Err being snappy at your MIL is probably the last thing you should think about doing. As with mothers, as far as my mother is concerned we never had the guts to snap at her, she’s easily hurt plus she’s been ill for very long time, I’d rather tell my sister leave the house than let her snap at my mother. So every family dynamics and circumstances are different, snaping at mothers may be acceptable in some househols but in ours it certainly isn’t and it’ll never be.

[Jolie]

Re: other people giving ur child sweet food?

@Sara516

Only one who should chill is you–your hatred against ABCDs is very clear then

Just get over yourself

PS, since we agree on how the in laws in this scenario are wrong, how would you handle it?

Nobody can be sweet and kind and patient 100% of the time, and really…if we can’t be snappy at our mothers once in a while, then who can be we be comfortable enough to show a bit of frustration from time to time.

maybe you are always patient with kids and always sweet and kind to everyone else, so why don’t you help out and give useful advice instead of** bringing your issues** here and calling mothers b*tches?

Oh the irony! LOL

As with the advice, she first of all needs to stop the build up inside her and try to casually conversationlise the reasons she thinks certain food is not good for the baby. She’s not dealing with children, she’s dealing with elders who don’t like being told that they’re outdated, we’ll also realize when we reach that age as well.

PS: You need to stop misquoting me.

[S02]

Re: other people giving ur child sweet food?

The one thing I have found very frustrating is the way my mom and MIL make me feel like I am depriving Bunny of something if I don't give her sugary things, especially packaged stuff loaded with preservatives, sugar, artificial colors and flavors. I know that we have grown up popping biscuits and chips like there were no consequences, but I do think that the preservatives affect your metabolism as well as your overall energy. Sugar affects attention, and too many products given to children are loaded, making them hyper and unfocused. And there is constantly news about the stuff used in artificial coloring and flavoring and its consequences. These are NOT the sorts of things that our parents grew up on, and mashAllah se their natural, homegrown/home-made foods have led to them being far more energetic and healthy than we ever were MASHALLAH.

Anyway, that is what I want for my daughter. And I do want to be careful with the foods I introduce to her. I want to know what is going in her body and whether or not it is affecting her negatively or positively.

All of my family members and friends are impressed by my daughter's willingness to try new foods, and her love of fruits and veggies mashAllah. She gets excited about and identifies: strawberries, blueberries, pears, apples, bananas, melons, avocado, spinach, zucchini, peas, carrots, aloo, broccoli, etc, along with chawal, cheerios, roti, bread, etc. She loves the flavorful desi foods and the experiments her mom makes at home. The sight of something sizzling in a pan on the stove elicits glee. She will want a bite of biscuits, ice cream, and cake if she sees us eating it, but she does not demand it like she does the above foods, and will often be satisfied with one bite and turn back to her bowl of fruit, mashAllah se.

But I got very upset when my MIL and mom gave ice cream sandwiches, foods with nuts, biscuits, cakes, etc before she turned a year old. These foods are not appropriate for her, and they are foods with addictive qualities, that I do not want her to crave for now.

I did snap quite a bit at my mom about this, and I know that isn't the right reaction, and I hope she forgives me for doing it. But that doesn't make what she and MIL did okay.