How do you handle that? My daughter (4 yrs old) actually cried cuz the girls (6 year olds) in our neighborhood were being mean to her 
What do I do?
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:( First talk to your daughter and then talk to their parents.
Re: Other kids being mean to your child
You have to teach her strategies to deal with it, because throughout life, there will be incidents like that, people like that. You have to explain to her that sometimes people are mean, sometimes they don't know they are being mean, and to point it out to them and walk away. Of course, this is a very hard thing for a 4 year old to do, because she wants to be accepted by the big kids. You've got to teach her to be strong in herself and to know what is kind and correct behaviour and what is not, and that she should stand up for herself without being mean back. That neither should she be that way nor accept bad treatment from anyone. For that of course, she needs to have good self esteem.
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^Yeah, I need to do that. I told her they were just being mean, and she said to me today "Mama, I'll tell them you should respect others" (they've been teaching this at school) .... I told her "good idea, sweetie.... I'm so proud of you"..... but my heart still sinks since she is so sensitive about such things and she cried :(. How do I instill self-esteem in her and to be able to stand up for herself. My husband actually started blaming me that you don't give her enough exposure and you don't take her out in the neighborhood much, thats why she doesn't know how to deal with this :(
njgal... one of the girl's father was there and he saw the whole thing.... he's a nice guy and I'm hoping he had a talk with his daughter. If this happens again, I will definitely talk to them.
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MIA, how were the mean to her? Did they make verbal comments, or did they get physical?
DB.... It was verbal.
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I don't know if this is a correct response, but did you ask her what they were saying and whether she believed what they were saying about her is true? Chances are, she doesn't believe what they were saying about her is true. The risk is when she does start believing this negative comments ....
Ask her why it isn't true. She will have to self-reflect about her own self and list reasons why the negative comments being directed at her are not true. Have her do this with you. Then ask perhaps tell her that just because somebody says something, doesn't always make it true. She needs to have a better idea of what she really is internally in order to fight off negative/verbally abusive comments. You can explain to her that when somebody resorts to bullying, it's because there is something wrong with them, not her. I would go as far as making her physically write down a list of her positive qualities and put it somewhere on the wall where she will see it all the time.
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It was not exactly abuse Mehnaz… they would start screaming when they saw her “she’s coming, she’s coming” and start running away from her, when all she wanted to do was play with them. She also told me one girl came up to her and said “stop following us”. Thats when her face crumpled and she started crying and I saw it and ran upto her, I was sitting on the porch keeping her in my view.
I told her “I guess we should find other kids who do want to play with you, forget these” and she said “but mama, why is their house next to ours… lets get a new house” :hinna: she just wants to go outside and play with the girls on our street since the weather is so nice but these girls don’t want to play with her, I don’t know why
Waisay my beti jaan is pretty sensitive, I don’t know how to make her more confident and handle rude comments from other kids or just be thick-skinned.
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:(
maybe explain to her it's cause they are older and they don't want to play with a younger girl ... I don't know, kids can be so mean to each other. :(
Re: Other kids being mean to your child
Such typical kid behaviour. How mean we all were/they all were. My brother used to treat me like that - buying a new house wouldn't solve that problem! In this case, it would be a good thing to talk to the parents to prompt them to talk to their daughters about how it would feel to be treated like that. Emotional intelligence is a learned skill. I think you did pretty good.
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its just kiddie behaviour... i see this happen all the time. Have seen it happen to my daughter as well... and it's not about being different. It's your own kind who do it. Kids get together and they need a "game" to play so they pick on one person and make them the target, especially if they know the person is going to react by chasing them.
Turn your daughter's attention elsewhere... maybe get her to play with other kids or simply tell her to walk away. I understand though, its a bit difficult to get a 4 year old to do that... they dont understand that it's just a stupid game older kids play.. and some of the ones associated with the "running away" dont even know why they are doing it. Here is where you have the followers and the leaders.
My daughter, who was almost 3 at the time, when she had someone do this to her the first time (non-desi people), and she didnt understand what they were saying... she just waddled along and kept playing with the kids until someone pushed her... it's difficult as a parent to witness this, but just be strong for them and show them that they can be the better person but ignoring and playing elsewhere... soon the other kids will realise how boring it is without ur child and probably come and get her... maybe?
ive had older desi kids do this too to my daughter... my daughter still didnt get it.. she just thought it was fun chasing big kids and having them scream when she ran after them...
one thing i do knwo about my daughter, she's not a follower and doesnt REALLY care..