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just go with the plans...weddings are costly
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I remember on my friend's sister's mehndi night in Karachi (back in those days, they used to do it in tents/shamiyaana on the street in front of their houses) .. his next door neighbor uncle died. They wanted to cancel the ceremony in respect but neighbors came and asked them to go ahead. Off course they did not do any dhol tamasha that night and did it with saadgi
just go with the plans...weddings are costly
How close that relative needs to be (the one who died) before cost does not become an issue to posptpone the plans ..
You have to understand, maybe for the bride, that dead family member wa not a close relative, but for someone who is close to the girl was a close relative ...
lets say that girl's khaloo's mother passed away .. not close to the girl, but close relative of her khala .. right
u cant even compare the shaadi in pakistan .. in neigbours and back in those days to the shaadi in* these days* where deceased and the person to be married is living in too different countries and are NOT even close....
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Aisha tone it down par dhool wale na bhoolna 
You have your baat pakki/engagement ceremony planned, but your distant relative passes away around the same time. Family politics, you all hated each other but since there has been a death. Would it be appropriate to have the ceremony or postpone it? I mean they didn't give a whatever about you and vice versa and the families were not close. Still would you postpone it?
Postpone it. It's rude and disrespectful to continue it.
What are the other relatives supposed to do? Go to the funeral or attend the party? It would leave a bad taste in my mouth .. and something very similar happened when my dad was sick so I am speaking from the side where I am aware of what it feels like to watch your relatives party while you are going through a tragedy.
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Postpone it. It would be a decent thing to do. :)
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Dont postpone, And dont 'tone it down' They are a distant family member. You've said your sorry to them (i think) So theres not much else you can do. Enjoy your wedding!
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I wouldn't postpone it! Too much of a headache and from what I gather you guys "don't get along" too well...so whatever!