Opinion

[Bechaari]

Thanks everyone that actually gave some decent advise

And thanks but no thanka to the others

[LP]

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If I was in a position where my husband’s friendship with a girl was bothering me, I would talk to my husband about it instead of messaging the girl.

[aqua70]

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I agree with LP, I realize situation is infuriating for you but your husband is not a child, you should talk to him instead of messaging the girl. He should know better.

[third_string]

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Invite her over for dinner and find a solution that will make all parties happy.

[redvelvet]

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She shouldn’t have added your husband on Instagram after your Snapchat threat. But you shouldn’t have initiated a message to her in the first place.

As for your husband, would you have felt better if he had responded with…“Durr…I dunno what you’re talking about”…or would you have been more satisfied if he gave her a lecture about how it’s haraam for them to talk? Some husbands would have been upset if their wives reacted in a way that would make interactions at work more awkward. That’s something to think about. It doesn’t seem as though he got mad at you…so I think you shouldn’t remain so stuck on why he apologized and told her you’re possessive. Move on from it.

You said that you have a happy marriage, MashaAllah se. And I’m assuming that in these few years of marriage, your husband has never given you a reason to doubt his sincerity toward you. He didn’t even try to hide from you the recent conversation he had with this girl. When people are guilty, they try to hide things. It’s not possible to watch him like a hawk all the time. If a guy’s gonna cheat on you, he’ll find a way to do it…you can’t stop him. And the best way to know if what you have is truly yours…is to let go and let them prove it to you. Jealousy/possessiveness to an extent is flattering and cute…but it can also hurt a relationship. If he’s never given you a reason thus far to suspect him, then trust him. Stop messaging his female coworkers (temporary or otherwise) because awkward vibes in the workplace are are very stressful. If you have issues…then as LP mentioned above…discuss it only with him.

[NavAhmed]

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It takes two hands to clap. If your husband is truly yours, no woman can pull him apart from you, but if deep inside he is seeking other relationships, no matter what you do, he will get distracted by this woman or someone else somewhere else.

So try and devote all your love and attention to him, and in the process remind him you expect the same in return.

[Pakistani_Prince]

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It’s cute that you feel possessive towards your husband. You need to get your own house in order before pointing fingers at others. Talk to your husband and sort this out… He seems like a sincere guy.

[Iconoclast]

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You check your husbands messages?
You are a very insecure woman. There are millions of woman out there, you won’t be able to stop him if he wants to hitch with someone and ditch you.

[NomiCA]

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girl you too waili to indulge in such things…i feel bad for your husband already.

[Rose887]

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Learn to trust your husband. This behaviour makes you look highly insecure.

[Bechaari]

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Just realised there are some sweet people here, by reading the replies, but guess i wont be coming back here for any advise lol

[Bechaari]

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Haha i forgot how nasty forums could get, to the people that left sweet and helpful coments a Massive thank you. And to those that just hide behind their computers and be nasty please do1.

[Bechaari]

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@Iconoclast

You check your husbands messages?
You are a very insecure woman. There are millions of woman out there, you won’t be able to stop him if he wants to hitch with someone and ditch you.

Please keep ur negative coments to ur self lol

[Bechaari]

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@redvelvet

She shouldn’t have added your husband on Instagram after your Snapchat threat. But you shouldn’t have initiated a message to her in the first place.

As for your husband, would you have felt better if he had responded with…“Durr…I dunno what you’re talking about”…or would you have been more satisfied if he gave her a lecture about how it’s haraam for them to talk? Some husbands would have been upset if their wives reacted in a way that would make interactions at work more awkward. That’s something to think about. It doesn’t seem as though he got mad at you…so I think you shouldn’t remain so stuck on why he apologized and told her you’re possessive. Move on from it.

You said that you have a happy marriage, MashaAllah se. And I’m assuming that in these few years of marriage, your husband has never given you a reason to doubt his sincerity toward you. He didn’t even try to hide from you the recent conversation he had with this girl. When people are guilty, they try to hide things. It’s not possible to watch him like a hawk all the time. If a guy’s gonna cheat on you, he’ll find a way to do it…you can’t stop him. And the best way to know if what you have is truly yours…is to let go and let them prove it to you. Jealousy/possessiveness to an extent is flattering and cute…but it can also hurt a relationship. If he’s never given you a reason thus far to suspect him, then trust him. Stop messaging his female coworkers (temporary or otherwise) because awkward vibes in the workplace are are very stressful. If you have issues…then as LP mentioned above…discuss it only with him.

Thanks for the mesage its helpful

[Bechaari]

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@Pakistani_Prince

It’s cute that you feel possessive towards your husband. You need to get your own house in order before pointing fingers at others. Talk to your husband and sort this out… He seems like a sincere guy.

He is Alhamdulillah very sincere, but this girl just doesnt seem to get the message lol

Thanks for the reply!

[redvelvet]

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@Bechaari

He is Alhamdulillah very sincere, but this girl just doesnt seem to get the message lol

Thanks for the reply!

It’s not as important for all the women out there to “get the message” as it is for your husband to be stronger. Both you and your husband can’t control how other women will behave; but he does have control over his own reactions. With that said, your umeed/expectations/hopes are not attached with those other women; they’re attached to your husband…if that makes sense.

[Iconoclast]

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Not only insecure but gets defensive too quickly.

[FreshBakedPi]

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@Iconoclast

Not only insecure but gets defensive too quickly.

Exactly.

I’m always perplexed why people go online for advice and then get upset when they hear opinions contrary to their own… if you don’t want to hear opposing opinions don’t cast a net in the first place. Good grief.