Opinion Needed [Split from Girly's Thread]

hmm. I know the similiar story..but this time it was girl’s father who called the guy’s father and swore and used very abusive language to this guy (When talking to his father). What we say to that?. The story goes something like this:

Guy liked this girl and they both have very good understanding. The guy told his father and his father rang up and talked to her father. First conversation went rude because, the girl’s father was like…" he needs to do more in terms of education". Though, guy had a good job..and just finished his bach. and was planning to study part time doing masters. And he wanted to get married to her asap to avoid “haram relationship”..beside caring about her.

Then few months later, i guess girl’s father and mother was trying to hook a girl with some “engineer” dude but she refused and of course therefore mayhem at her house. This trigged the girl’s father to called guy’s father and used VERY abusive language to a guy..and told his father that..he should cut ties with her and not talk to my daughter. etc. And this whole time guy’s father was calm..and trying to tell her father that… “vo apni beti ko samjhaen and don’t come to me if you can’t control your daugher”. The guy’s father was pissed as well but he acted maturely and didn’t use any abusive language toward the girl OR even her father.

And now the situation is same, the girl and guy are talking regularly and still wants to get married but the guy is being extremely understanding and telling her that..if her father isn’t agreed to this…why are we going with this? To this, girl gets emotional and cry and cry..and of course..this guy tells her that..insha’allah whatever Allah wills it will happen..but we should remain patient and of course hoping her parents will come around.
Guy’s father is calm and tells his son to be patient and try finishing his masters in meanwhile.

Anyway sorry about that..thread starter. This is the story of my bestfriend and my yar!! I hope everything works out for both of them.

Now tell me what should this couple do?

Re: Opinion Needed [Split from Girly's Thread]

grl has to talk to her dad ... its as simple as that ... if hes being unreasonable ... then yeah tey're gonna have some issues

Re: Opinion Needed [Split from Girly's Thread]

dude if thye love each other and are willing to go to all end for the other the girl's dad should agree...clearly his daughter wont be happy with anyone else, he's a good guy- stable job, and when he completes his masters who know he might be earning more than the engineer..if money is the issue...and srsly when it comes to shaadi and all, its all a gamble - what is the engineer is a phycho and treats his daughter like cr*p or something...live and let be is all i can say...

Re: Opinion Needed [Split from Girly's Thread]

mmmm i will suggest but first i have to think

Re: Opinion Needed [Split from Girly’s Thread]

It all depends if you wanna deal with the drama later :k:

Re: Opinion Needed [Split from Girly's Thread]

Girl will end up with nasty evil inlaws. I say she stays clear. No matter how much it hurts. Like everyone says If Allah has written it, It will happen.

Re: Opinion Needed [Split from Girly's Thread]

dude ... i think the parents come along after a while ... i've seen both kids elope and get married and now both their parents are pretty happy to see their kids happy

Re: Opinion Needed [Split from Girly's Thread]

There's really nothing the guy can do....if they really want to be with each other the girl needs to talk with her dad and tell him what a good person this guy is and how he can support her financially, and is planning on doing his masters etc.............if the dads only problem is education then they can hold of the marriage till his education is complete

Re: Opinion Needed [Split from Girly's Thread]

IMHO, the girl should not marry without her father's permission.... should try to get him to agree.