I received this problem as a PM from a guppy that wishees to remain anonymous. Can you please offer your advice (I’m sure Shikra and Dutch Paki will do an especially good job of it 
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She should tell the parents who she likes and that she isnt interested in the cousin (if thats the case). In the extreme case, she can always elope with the younger guy 
if you are decidedly serious about him, then do the following:
1) be dastardly to your relatives back home. (nani's out of the picture after all)
2) try testing waters with you dad, not related to this guy. as in, show an attitude of defiance in every thing for the time being.
3) talk of hating pakistan and erverything there.
4)and the ultimate joke: say 'mujhay aaga parhna hay'. dont talk of marriage warriage at this point.
first of all, you should give YOUR OPINION aswell SS
annyway, I ll do my best 
I dunno what the ‘situation’ is at the guppies place and how free you are with your family. But I think You should tell your family. Try telling for example to your mom who often are a bit more understanding about different situations.
Try to talk to her and find out what she thinks about everything and what she thinks of the boy s family.
If your mom agrees with you and says she ll back u up, tell her to help u talk to dads
The trouble is, your dad doesn t like his khandan, but if mom is on your side, you can try to persuede him to meet the family.
But if your mom disagrees with you then either forget about the guy, or talk to him, and try to find out how far he will go for you. For example if he has a job and his own place then you could just marry him but with the risk of not seeing your own family every again.
But try talking to your mom first. And remember the who doesn t try, doesn t win.
I hope all turns out well for you 
You didn't say if this other guy has the same feelings for you? Is he even aware of your feelings for him? Secondly, go to your GP, explain your situation and ask if it's possible to get a note from him/her exempting you from marrying your cousin for medical reasons. And if you can think up of one, give your doc a reason, e.g. mental health, to recommend this other guy for marriage (if that is what you want) in the same letter.
Well, you'll never know if you don't try.
If it's mutual, get the guy to convince his parents first. Don't even bring it up with your parents till the guy's parents are okay with it and willing to speak to your parents (else you'll end up looking like a fool).
If it's mutual, but the guy isn't in the position to speak to his parents, then make some excuse about how you want to study on, etc. Do make sure that the guy's parents are okay with it or that he is brave enough to go against his family (or has the ability to convince them).
Don't go to Pakistan till it's all settled.
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hmmm..hun maybe there's a reason your dad doesn't like his family. You should ask him what does he have against the family. The guy ur into may be a great guy and all, but you don'tknow maybe his family isn't so great. If you are strongly opposed to marrying your cousin then don't do it., it'll only cause more trouble in the end. But in the end, after you listen to your father's reasons and you still feel this way about this guy, and he feels the same, then go for it. At least you'll have exhausted all options and are doing what you truly desire.
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Ok. Here’s what I think. I would have to know the whole situation (what kind of relationship you have with your family, especially mom - is she strict? friendly? etc). Then we look at these things:
Does the guy also love you?
Is he serious because he’s younger than you and I am not sure what your ages are, but if you are around 22 and the guy’s 21, then he needs a few more years to finish his studies and to settle down in life.
Is he willing to talk to your parents that he likes you and is he willing to tell his parents as well that he likes you?
Will his family be okay with it? I know your dad doesn’t like his khandan.
I can’t find a solution to your problem without knowing the answers to all these question. However, I will say something keeping what you’ve told in mind:
The guy is younger than you. Are you sure it’s love and not infatuation? If the guy’s serious, tell him to talk to his and your family. Talk to your mom and tell her how much you like this guy and this likes you too (if he does). Ask your mom to talk to your dad because usually moms are good at it. Then talk to your dad because ofcourse he would wanna talk to you and ask your dad for one chance that he should meet the guy and give him a chance. For desi parents, the age does matter. It’ll be hard because he’s younger than you but it’s not impossible. I’ve seen couples where the girl is 10 years older than the guy and they are living happily. So it all depends on the questions that I asked you above. PM Sobi and answer those question or PM me directly and I’ll be able to help you better.
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