my question is not meant to hurt any one. its a discusssion so take as discussion plz.
what would be u r feeling if ur hubby marry second time, third or fourth time keeping all his wives together or giving their rigths as per islamic values
don’t u think this way many young girls who get old waiting for a rishta can get married. its a fact that females r more than males so for on one male there should be more than one woman.
may be if married ladies convince their hubby to marry their cousins or friends unmarried becuz of age/looks/jahaiz/anyother reason whatsoever won’t this be a gr8 sacrifice and service to community. many people will be saved from many sins of single life???
my question is not meant to hurt any one. its a discusssion so take as discussion plz.
what would be u r feeling if ur hubby marry second time, third or fourth time keeping all his wives together or giving their rigths as per islamic values
don't u think this way many young girls who get old waiting for a rishta can get married. its a fact that females r more than males so for on one male there should be more than one woman.
may be if married ladies convince their hubby to marry their cousins or friends unmarried becuz of age/looks/jahaiz/anyother reason whatsoever won't this be a gr8 sacrifice and service to community. many people will be saved from many sins of single life???
no heart feelings plz.
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LMAO!!!
Are you for real? Or just messing with our minds? Is this Lajwanti in disguise?
P.S: Nah! nothing like "heart" feelings here atleast. It was too lame a thread to even take it seriously.
hmmmmm actually i was discussing this topic with my dad the other day and he came out with 101 reasons y a married man should marry again……i think it would be a sawab of some kind to marry women who r older and waiting for rishtas but with it comes great responsibility and living happily with a ‘saukun’ isnt as sweet as a pie…i dont have the heart though…it depends on the situation i might change my mind…pata ni…
i see your point BUT...with a 2nd wife means more children.. more responsibility and less money. Plus in the US the 2nd marriage is unrecognized...so no legal safety net. Less money gives us less to spend on my kids for their schooling...etc..so I wouldn't do it.
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i'm not that good...
i see your point BUT...with a 2nd wife means more children.. more responsibility and less money. Plus in the US the 2nd marriage is unrecognized...so no legal safety net. Less money gives us less to spend on my kids for their schooling...etc..so I wouldn't do it.
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certainly would mean more kids but is money our responsibility???
whoever comes in this world brings his/her own rizk so why to worry??
A Sahabi came to Nabi Sallahoalihiwassalam compaining about his bad financial conditions. u know what he replied? go and marry. he went away did as per order. somedays later the sahabi returned with same problem and same was the answer. he did again i.e. marry third time. the sahabi once again returned with same that Yarasoolallah i m still poor. once again he was asked to marry. this was to be fourth time i.e. the sahabi's fourth nikkah. later when he returned he said Yarasoolallah i am happy now Allah has turned the halat.
find the moral in it.
by the way nobody is that good. its all about sacrificing and get rewarded inaakhirat
Isnt it better that ALL man-kind chooses a partner for marriage... irrespective of her looks, education... financial status... etc etc...
That way - less women would get 'left on the shelf' and the burden of 4 wives isnt on one man... ???
Why should the married man be the one to take 'pity' on the other women... why not a kunwara guy think - oh well shes not my ideal - but i'll compromise???
personally i wuld give him two choices…either stay wid me or die..cuz thea’s no way in hell i can SHARE ma hubby..i mite sound selfish but m sorry no can do
n like Madhanee said there are plenty men out thea not like bandaron ki kami hai iss duniya main they r all ova da place..it ain’t like da old days now ke most aadmi battles main shaheed ho rahe hain…
I have never seen a man who is keeping a balance between the two wives or three.
And 2nd marriage is only allowed after permission from 1st wife and if a man can keep a balance. So why do you men want to do it?
You are simply not capable of this balance! Gunha mile ga!
May be men find it somehow exciting but most women (who have a choice) find it unacceptable. And also I have seen men with first dead wife , they even try to marry an unmarried female, if they can and that too 2nd time! May be they should think about it.
If my hubby ever does it, its the end of story for me.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I was under the impression that polygamy was considered a "noble cause", only if one is able to treat his wives with just equality. I'm sure most would agree that in practice, this is a condition that is most difficult to meet, as only a truly selfless woman would be capable of continuing a relationship with any man, especially one that requires such intimacy, with the knowledge that he isn't exclusively hers, as she is his.
Kudos to all the women who are able to live harmoniously with her husband and his other wife(s). Call me selfish (as I truly am so very possessive of the ones I love, I doubt I'd even be comfortable with the prospect of my future husband looking at another woman the way he's meant to solely at me) or whatever less pleasant title, but I could never be so altruistic.
…i think it would be a sawab of some kind to marry women who r older and waiting for rishtas but with it comes great responsibility and living happily with a ‘saukun’ isnt as sweet as a pie…i dont have the heart though…it depends on the situation i might change my mind…pata ni…
