As a male, I can tell you I understand where your husband is coming from. I would like my wife to wear decent clothing and wear hijab in front of other men. Having said that, I wouldn’t force her to do it, because then she wouldn’t be doing it for the sake of religious obligation, rather for my sake which in my opinion is not the point of *hijab. *I’d try the gently, loving way. Teaching her about Islam and her obligations, and explaining to her about what other men may think of her.
Marriage is about compromise Sara - it’s dupatta right? It’s not something like the burqa. It’s a part of our culture and women are actually expected to wear it. It’s not as if he’s asking you to do something outrageous. Why does wearing the dupatta bother you so much?
Firstly, you must have known he’s religious before marriage. You should have realised this would come up then.
Secondly, when you say you’re ‘not religious’, what does that mean? You don’t pray, or fast, or what? Because if so, **you **will have to change, not him. That’s the blatant truth: he isn’t going to become less religious for you.
If you have any children, your husband will want them to have a proper Islamic up-bringing, though I think you may not be too bothered. Start thinking about how you’re going to deal with that now. Sit down and talk to him.