Re: Only living for my parents, will die otherwise
Shanzai sorry to hear about such difficult ordeal.
No matter how difficult it is for you, I think you have done a good job in posting this -to let the frustration out of your system.
It is probably the most difficult time for a family if one of their loved one is in jail. But be strong.
You will have to be much stronger - you know why? Because your brother who is already in jail - regardless of what he has done - is suffering even more. He will lose his self-confidence if he does not have strong pillars around him to support him.
So be strong and proactively fight for each day to be a winner.
You must understand that by supporting your parents you are already SUCCESSFUL for that day.
Think past supporting your parents. You need to take a deep breath, take a step back, look at the over all tasks that needs to be done. Concentrate your energy on "doing" things rather than concentrating on "thinking" about what's happened and why did it happen.
Hope you find the strength to face this testing period. You will be just fine - that's my prayer for you.
Re: Only living for my parents, will die otherwise
Shanzai, depending on where you live in the US, each state has several bar associations. There is one for the state itself (e.g. the Pennsylvania Bar Association), and then a whole bunch of smaller groups for each county/township in the state. Have a look here:
Click on your state to find the names and contact information for your particular area and call them up. Briefly explain your situation and ask if you can get some names/numbers of attorneys or legal groups/organizations who provide legal aid to people with difficult financial situations. You could also try directly looking up the local legal aid chapter in your area (though I imagine the bar association will give you that information). Say you live in Cumberland County in Pennsylvania. So you would type into google “Cumberland County Legal Aid.” That should get you some results.
The next thing I would suggest…how old are your parents? If they qualify as senior citizens, they may be entitled to certain forms of federal and state aid…but without knowing the particulars of their situation, I couldn’t tell you for sure. Again, say you live in Pennsylvania. Type in something like “Pennsylvania social welfare” or “Pennsylvania social services, elderly.” Get the names and numbers and set up an appointment and talk to these people about getting help for your parents. They may not be able to direct you to a lawyer, but your parents may be entitled to aid (i.e. help in paying bills) that may ease their burden a bit. Plus, even though they may not be able to help legally, they will probably know of lawyers who help out people in circumstances such as yours.
You just need to do a bit of research. And make a lot of duas. Inshallah, this too shall pass.
Re: Only living for my parents, will die otherwise
Very sorry to hear that.
I think only the person who is going through can understand real pain and it is very appreciable that OP is determined to fight. It is easy for us to say yes keep fighting but ultimately OP has to go through all the headache. Sometimes any unusual phone call or connection end up resolving an issue. One never knows where the help might come from.
My best wishes and prayers for the family.
We all should respect and be thankful for what we have and more importantly be prepared for any worse situation any time.
thanks everyone for making me feel better..i have already talked to a bunch of attorneys and hoping for things to work out and Inshallah it will but its gonna take sometime..yes i m planning to get some help for my parents from social services...
@fallenpieta.... if u dont have anything nice to say ..no one needs ur opinion...dont make fun of people ...already enough problems in life...
@Mistral thanks for your suggestion yes i m looking in to getting some social help for my parents..hope things work out..