Online vs. Real Life Venues

Lifestyle Relationships
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If you look on the internet now, there are lots of places to look for muslim spouses/pakistani spouses - there are meetup.com groups, facebook groups, all these online groups to match up with people who are desi muslim.

But then you look in real life, and you’ll be hard pressed to find venues. Even desi events, often, are segregated, and religious events are nearly always segregated.

So, I dont get that. Isn’t it hypocrisy for our community to send the message that trying to find the opposite sex in real life is somehow wrong or unIslamic or improper (that you should go through your parents instead), and meanwhile, there are a dozen popular websites online trying to connect people for rishtaa purposes??

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There is a reason that hit ratio in real life connection is better than virtual world. In real world every step is calculated and prudent.

beside this, many (if not most) of the profiles on these online matrimonial sites are fake and are created out for fun so dont compare 25 accounts on somesite.com to 4 genuine connections entertained by community/parents/relatives.

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If you plan on getting a guy over the net plan to have those kids over the net as well.

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what if the IP address changes during download? :eek:

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That must explain the white kid to the black parents in the S&T forums! :eek:

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^:omg:… you TWO, tauba

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What it was an interesting point they raised...

Personally i couldn't trust the online matrimonial sites...

Then again i'm happily married through my own efforts... and offcourse the efforts of my in Laws.

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the desis events are generally not conducive for an individual to find another individual through solo efforts but are more community and network based, even in segregated events major connections and hookups are being planned by planners.

however there is plenty of individual effort based hooking up going on in universities and colleges anyways, and in community organizations.

now the online rishta places, as someone stated many are fake, and of those that are not eventually the family gets involved, some profiles are there placed by the family.

This issue is not just in US btw, I know ppl living in Pakistan who cant seem to find someone, and i mean you are living the middle of a sea of humanity from your religion, cultural, economic and educational background.

the key is community connections, being visible, knowing people. seriously.

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I would rather prefer to talk to someone having static IP .. :expressionless: .. i don’t want to take risks!

P.S:
IP Spoofing and MAC Spoofing can result in potential Cheating :frowning:

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the segregation thing is brilliant. it's like there is so much sexual tension between the two genders that the only way to prevent a spontaneous orgy from breaking out is by putting physical barriers between them. makes about as much sense as wearing skintight jeans and topping it off with a headscarf to show how modest we are. wah wah...

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online matches are really dangerous, the real personality of the person doesn't come through during chat. if you find somebody that has some of the points that are compatible with your personality, i think immediately meeting in person is best and continuing the relationship that way

it's so easy to get emotionally attached to the projected personality online which could be fake or disillusioning because the real person behind that profile could be a whacko

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i had a majorly bad experience with online love.......won't go into it again

but in another case with facebook, this guy seemed like such a decent person online, he's a motivational speaker in real life and a counselor and seemed totally calm and normal but a older lady said something to him that rubbed him the wrong way and he just let loose the swears and verbal abuses, "whore, slut, bit*h....cow..." and god knows what else, but i felt bad for her and i never saw this guy in the same way again, kept my distance didn't want him to go ballistic on me next......just imagining how his anger is in the nonvirtual world.....scary stuff :P

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hahaha good one

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Best comments of the month! :omg:

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I have heard many marriages held as a result of gyus meeting girls through internet. Do you guys really think long distance dating can be a serious business which can lead to marriage? I mean, a girl and a guy got introduced on internet, they mite have also met 1-2 times with the agreement of their families, but can guys really be serious to any girl just over internet (after having a knowledge that they are compatible etc)? Marriages are common amongst colleagues/ class fellows coz guys meet and see the girls on a daily basis and this forms a strong connection. But can guys be emotional enough to miss a girl over chat, video chat etc, obviously after knowing that they can be a good match.

Do guys only get interested while having regular interaction/ meeting with girls through physical interaction or can they be REAL SERIOUS over internet too (I mean after seeing the girl physically for a few hours and talking to her over voice chat for a few hours which could had him feeling that the compatibility is present)?

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is it me, or your every post have to have word desi in first 2 lines,
but mostly in first line. :D