Hareem and Jaanwar! pangay lenay to koi app se seekhay. wesay hareem! shukria spelling mistake ka btanay ka mujhay nahi pata tha k yahan pe english k itne baraday masters and masteraaani's tashreef farma hn warna mein tenses study ker k ata.
ok boss! aeinda ghar se english mukammal study ker k aunga.
ab to theek ha na?
aur haan! ab ye roman urdu ka issue na kharda ker dena. aaaho!
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aik to yahan office me manager tung ker raha ha, upper se ap bhi english professor bn gaey hn!
anyhow! koi baat nahen. muaf kia!
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Re: One should not do a good deed only to whine about it later
If it was a very very close friend of mine...best friend or sister and she wasnt there for me...I would not only mind...I would be angry.
But for some reason, I dont expect much from people Im not super close to. Ive heard this saying a few times in Urdu..."naiki kar, darya mein daal"...meaning do something nice and forget about it. When I do a good deed and the concerned party doesnt reciprocate...its alright. Somehow, somewhere...it will pay off. Maybe not in the way I expected but its been noticed.
The problem is, we have a hard time recognizing our blessings.
hmmmm! koi baat nahe ho jatay hn maslay masaael!
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tension nahe leni...tension deni ha!
:D
But for some reason, I dont expect much from people Im not super close to. Ive heard this saying a few times in Urdu..."naiki kar, darya mein daal"...meaning do something nice and forget about it. When I do a good deed and the concerned party doesnt reciprocate...its alright. Somehow, somewhere...it will pay off. Maybe not in the way I expected but its been noticed.
That's very true...My older brother does sooooo much for me, it's really unbelievable how much he does for me, and I have never once felt like I owed him for anything. Same is my relationship with my younger brothers...I would give up anything and everything just to see them succeed and be happy, and always tell them that when I start earning I will buy them this laptop or this jazzy new thing...and I don't even feel like I'm doing anything good and would never expect anything in return...
I guess that's what real love is: when you can do good for others and not even realize it.
There's this friend I have and I never gave her anything, and she never gave me anything....and we've known each other since wre were babies...I have the best relationship with her....We gave each other memories of good times and competing with each other in every aspect of life, and that's all we needed.
NICE THREAD! THIS IS BECAUSE THE PEOPLE ARE IGNORANT, THEY ARE MATERIALISTIC AND EXPECT A REWARD FOR THEIR GOOD DEEDS. SHOWNESS AND CORRUPTION AND SELFISHNESS IS IT'S CAUSE.
AND IF WE WILL NOT ELIMINATE THEZ THINGS THEN THIS WILL ALL HAPPEN!
:)
I second the red marked text and the thread itself..
Most of us act this way because we are designed to act this way. This is the nature of a human being. Nothing wrong with that.
It's only human to expect..
Think about it, as a Muslim, you pray 5 times a day ... why ?
because you want something in return from Allah.
and Allah only rewards to those who pray for his reward, so nothing wrong with this system...
Re: One should not do a good deed only to whine about it later
Ummmm...Reality Check...Allah swt is not the same as just an average human being you end up doing something nice for. I hope I dont have to elaborate on this...
It is natural to expect after helping people, but to curse and backbite is worst than helping them. It is better that the person doesn't help if that help leads to cursing, backbiting and prejudice.
Even after doing good to people, it is better to expect from Allah (swt) because no one gives better reward than Allah (swt). Allah doesn't like people who curse and backbite even if it is due to people not returning favor as per expectations.
Chief justice of shariat court told me,** "I adopted three girls after their parents died in an accident. After getting married, non of them even remember me and my wife. When my wife complains about it, I tell her that you have a right to complain only if you didn't do this favor for Allah (swt). If you did it for Allah (swt) then don't complain and wait for HIS rewards in the life hereafter"**
Re: One should not do a good deed only to whine about it later
Crimemaster:
I think what were talking bout here is:
NOT expectation or greed for REWARD rather its expectation of KADER or GRATEFULNESS.
Like someone posted earlier atleast you would expect a little RESPECT for what u did for someone.
Its totally natural and human to expect this. Theres nothing ireligious or wrong in this.
and its bad to be ungrateful.
Re: One should not do a good deed only to whine about it later
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
*“Kindness is not present in a thing but it makes it beautiful, and it is not missing from a thing but it makes it ugly.” *
(Narrated by Muslim, 2594, from the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her).
Re: One should not do a good deed only to whine about it later
You know–forget reciprocation, gratitude, even unnoticing.. when a loved one, upon doing something nice for them, says “well i never asked u to do anything for me.”
WAT?
Re: One should not do a good deed only to whine about it later
"NO GOOD DEED GOES UNPUNISHED... "
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GOGO, you should read some of the posts here:
"Oh my god, on my wedding we did this and this for our relatives and when I went to their house, I got 50 rupees, uff!"
I guess i am one of the people that would agree with the above quote. When relos who can't stop complaining, criticising, backbiting you and your taste and the preparation etc that your parents have done and then only leave you 50 rupees. thats when i start getting pissed.
But on the other hand if it was just some ordinary random person that i was close to who gave me that i would be thrilled.