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^ AWWW! 
its okay… at least things are better now…right?
meri behn aisay karti i wouldn’t’ve hesitated in slapping her.
things are better but when i think of those things now i do laugh alot but i do feel bad sometimes as well.
her behavourier was understandable as she was enjoying soooooooooooo much, not my wedding but pakistan. one or two slapp wouldnt changed her.
few days before my wedding hubby called me, to inform me that sis is trying to walk on roof’s fence and stop her!
few days after my wedding, she had bashed my little BIL!
when i went again to pakistan she wanted to go with me and i told my parents no.
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aww u guys this is such a great topic !!! its making me cry !!
ill remember each one of ur advices!
harsh notice:
why on earth your mil asked u to get changed b4 ur hubby came in the room.
didn't you get dressed, got nice make up done etc all of that for ur hubby.
sweetheart your in laws dont sound right to me i think u should start standing up for urself unless u gonna get dragged by them all ur life.
i went to pakistan after soooooo long and felt so uncomfortable with everyone as i had to rely on my cousins for everything. they organised parlour and other stuff.
i had very very heavy duppata and lengha..............long heels...........and very heavy earrings. my ears were killing me, with heavy duppta sliding on sides..............i had use stairs alot and with high heel and other problems i felt like crying.
my jewellery, especially earrings were so heavy. but i realised later that i should have got the same design but much lighter and less gold. but i didnt knew before.
my sis was 13 and she was acting so weired in pakistan and i had to trace her down even on my wedding day. mum was so busy as we had so many guests staying at our house plus she wasnt feeling well. on mehandi day sister went with some girls to a local park; couldnt contact her as she didnt had phone with her.............so she couldnt get mehani
i had to purchase her gift that she had to give to my hubby and i was certain that she will forget at home, and told my aunty to keep reminding her.
sis didnt brush her hair on my barat day and i was sitting there asking every one to help her brush her hair and i dont think she even washed her face!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i was so stressed out and wanted to run away.
after ruksati, photographer asked us to do photos in fron of every one. i felt so weired and annoyed as everyone was looking at us. PLEASE make sure you , with your hubby or family members are alone with the photographer and other people not staring at you.
know all the rusums before your wedding. i was asked by this annoying aunty to give money to my BIL, and i did but she kept asking him to hassle me to get more.
and ofcourse.........my MIL lost the key to the suitcase which had my night dress and dont ask me what i had to wear for the night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE KEEP ALL YOUR BELONGINGS TO YOURSELF AND NEVER ASK ANYONE TO LOOK AFTER FOR YOU.
before my hubby came to the room, MIL asked me to get changed!!!
I WAS IN SUCH A SHOCK DURING MY WEDDING.........
and PLEASE DONT ASK ABOUT MY HONEY MOON.
harsh notice: why on earth your mil asked u to get changed b4 ur hubby came in the room. didn't you get dressed, got nice make up done etc all of that for ur hubby. sweetheart your in laws dont sound right to me i think u should start standing up for urself unless u gonna get dragged by them all ur life.
great advice..the only thing is it doesnt fit here because this thread is to help girls.
harsh notice: why on earth your mil asked u to get changed b4 ur hubby came in the room. didn't you get dressed, got nice make up done etc all of that for ur hubby. sweetheart your in laws dont sound right to me i think u should start standing up for urself unless u gonna get dragged by them all ur life.
my MIL is not very educated and very different, maybe she didnt realise that. they have already dragged me but anymore!
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If getting cards developed in Pakistan, with favour tags, menu cards, reserved signs, do all the pre prep work before you go and save them on a USB/CD. it saves time and many trips to the card place. Also check all spelling mistakes etc before you leave for Pak! Pre Planning!
Make use of your time in Pak, do ur research and shop around. Don't go on the first thing that catches ur eye. You can get a feel for the prices.
Don't take the first price! Haggle haggle haggle! Be it a designer! We did and prob saved a total of 2 lakhs! This included, 8 outfits for sisters, 2 for my husband, 20 for me, 2 bridals, 3 for my mum, jewellery and my gold set for the barat!
Get ur acrylics before u have ur mendi done, that was the advice from my MUA
Have a full dress rehersal at least one month before so u can make any changes.
If getting nose pierced so it 6 months before! I did it 3 months and it did not heal on time.
Make a list of expenditure, keep a track!
Maybe space out ur mehndi and barat - so last min preps can be done the day before, i.e picking up flowers etc.
start any treatments 6 months before, i.e monthly facials!
Pedicures! It makes a difference!
Don't show anyone ur lengha, apart from immediate fam of course i.e sisters etc!
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Hey guys thanks for the advice.
I get married in 4 weeks and i'm really worried about my dupatta setting! I have ideas but trials have gone wrong and im just not getting the look im after. No one seems to know the correct way of pinning, where to pin and where to pleat, its really frustrating and i know im going to end up looking back and regretting it!
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I love this thread!
Some of the stories are very cute!!
Hey guys thanks for the advice.
I get married in 4 weeks and i'm really worried about my dupatta setting! I have ideas but trials have gone wrong and im just not getting the look im after. No one seems to know the correct way of pinning, where to pin and where to pleat, its really frustrating and i know im going to end up looking back and regretting it!
a decent bridal makeup lady should know how to do this, who have u booked?
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Nice topic SGC!!
Here's my advice:
1- Enjoy your wedding as much as possible. Don't sweat about little things. Smile, socialize, do whatever that makes you happy on your special night!
2-If you're thin then try to avoid heavy outfit for your wedding. My Nikkah lehnga was heavy but I thought I'll manage it until the night came when my heavily embroidered dupatta had to be pinned to my hair. Ouch, it hurt!!! Plus I had high heals and had to use stairs to enter the hall. Let me tell you I did walk funny!! So go for a lighter dress if you can but if you still go with the dress then just ignore rude comments. Someone who attended my wedding had guts to make fun in front of me of how I walked.....(!!!) But I have to say, I looked 100times better than her on my wedding day!
3-I didnt have my mehndi makeup done by a professional makeup artist but it wasn't a big of a deal as I know how to do makeup but I made the biggest mistake of letting someone else do it which I really regret because she messed up my look so don't let other people do your makeup if you're not sure if they'll do a good job or not!
4- THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT: Before you decide for photographer/videographer for your wedding, check with others for recommendations. Don't go with a videographer you havent heard about, also see their work. Discuss in details what and how you want your video/photos taken and where. Have a family member/friend on the wedding functions to guide him so nothing is missed.
5-It's fine to spend a lot of money on your wedding but there's a lot more than just awesome venue, decor and food. Don't forget to give a personal touch to your wedding, it leaves a lasting impression on the guests but like pakfairy said dont overdo it or go broke spending money on this stuff. I bought my centerpieces from ebay and some local dollar store and got a lot of compliments from people. go firgure:-p
6- This was important for me as we were on a budget: make a list of all things bought/need to be bought so you know how much money you've spent and how much more can be spent.
Good luck!
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^ Agreed, I spent more time on the personal touches i.e a gorgeous dood palai glass, hints of my lining colour in my table centres, stage, favours, a cute but touching message from me, which was placed on the table 'a mesage from the bride' saying how much i thanked everyone for coming and that i would miss my family so much and to remember me in ur duas etc. also my viel which i wasnt keen on but pics came put great! All these things didnt cost anything really but made my wedding pics look so so great!
I'm not married, but I blv that at a busy time like this do think of the poor and needy as well. It's a tradition in our family that during weddings we send money to widows or orphans. And whatever the food is, the same amount is sent to orphanages..
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^Gina, That is a beautiful family tradition.....yeah, we should never forget those who are less fortunate. We gave sadqa as well. I think it is very important and an ideal way to begin a new phase in life.
^ Agreed, I spent more time on the personal touches i.e a gorgeous dood palai glass, hints of my lining colour in my table centres, stage, favours, a cute but touching message from me, which was placed on the table 'a mesage from the bride' saying how much i thanked everyone for coming and that i would miss my family so much and to remember me in ur duas etc. also my viel which i wasnt keen on but pics came put great! All these things didnt cost anything really but made my wedding pics look so so great!
Yeah, I read about your wedding....I really like these little personal touches, it really shows the personality of bride and groom. Such things are remembered for a long time. At 1 of my friend's wedding, each guest was given a rose which had a 'thank you' note attached to it.
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^ I did that at me engagement, cream roses with cute cream thank you tags from our families! Plus cute little ladoo boxex!
I'm not married, but I blv that at a busy time like this do think of the poor and needy as well. It's a tradition in our family that during weddings we send money to widows or orphans. And whatever the food is, the same amount is sent to orphanages..
soooooooooooo true, we gave sadqa and are also paying for a poor girls wedding next year in pakistan. its better to give!
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ive learned that more you plan, the more it will not go your way....at the last minute, there's always going to be some aunti putting in her two cents.....so smile, grin, and bear it!
and i would advise to get a good night sleep before your big day, and eat your dinner/lunch before you start to get ready...
also i would try to get my closest closest friends/sisters/cousins in charge of certain things (eg. handing out favours, music, etc...)..i would get the single ones to be in charge..because the ones that are married might not be able to take full respsobility of the task (cuz of their kids ticking the heck out of them...lol....)
and oh yeah...make sure to breathe....its the first day of the rest of your life.....take a deep breath and be thankful that all of your loved ones are with you on this day...because that is what really matters.....
and i would advise to get a good night sleep before your big day, and eat your dinner/lunch before you start to get ready...
Don't think i'll be able to sleep or eat lol xx
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silsila , where did u get the cards that say message from the bride?