Re: one more till the wedding
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=madinahme;8377672]I'm getting married in exactly one week from today
Congratulations, getting married is one the biggest milestones in the life of any human, girls are more excited for many reasons.
and I thought I'd be really happy but instead I feeling super depressed. Is that normal? it isn't cold feet or anything like that.
Sometimes major events in the life are marred by relatively smaller happenings, and even in this small post I can see most of them quite capable of distracting you from the big event, this unnecessary distraction acts like fog around the expectations that you had for the day, that would eventually lead to distress and in many cases disappointment when you feel helpless.
It's crazy but I just want to dump the whole wedding idea and just get rukhsati done from home and go.
Don’t even think about it, you will ever regret that, go as planned, gather yourself and be involved.
Yesterday my Mum dissappeared too, she left home in the middle of the night and she wont contact us (she has schizophrenia) so now I don't know what to do because I want her to be here with me at this time. My sister got angry at me over a really stupid issue and shes now saying that she will not be attending my mehndi. The mehndi was mostly her responsibility because me and her basically organized my whole wedding.
I hope and pray that your Mom is back by now and is doing fine. You should talk to your sister, I see no point in parting ways with your sister over a matter which in your own words is “Stupid”, there is no harm is saying “sorry” even when you are the one who deserved to be apologized.
Mehndi of a girl cannot have the color which otherwise it should have without the participation of her sister.
My husband came home after a year and I'm not at all excited to see him so I haven't met him yet and I most probably won't see him till the wedding either.
I am not sure what level of affinity you had with your “to be” Husband, however it is a good idea to give him a phone call, and if you feel comfortable do talk to him about your feelings. I believe a few words from one who is presumably closest to you would give you comfort that no one else would be able to provide. You must talk to him even if you hesitate to share your feelings.
I know people get emotional during their wedding period but they're also excited to be their husband, so why am I feeling this way?
You want to feel that way but humbled by other events that you have no control over. The biggest and very basic reason of anxiety and depression is the perception of loss of control. Don’t think about what is beyond your control. Things happen and will keep happening, you deserve to have your share of happiness, get it before it is lost altogether.
Other then that, I feel guilty for leaving because I have brothers and Dad while I am the only girl in the house.
If you don’t leave they will feel guilty of keeping you…lol
I feel hurt and I don't have anyone to blame for it so it's confusing me. Now i feel like I won't be happy on my wedding day and when I'm not happy it shows on my face.
Happiness can be acquired, think only about the event that can excite you. Don’t pay too much attention on what can make you feel disappointed.
Do people feel this way before their wedding? From the looks of the situation, would it be ok to cancel off the wedding and go off simple. If anything should be done, it should be done now while I still have a week.
We are all different in nature, raised differently and have different abilities to coup with different situation. Our reaction is primarily a reflection of our personality trait, too mush excitement can throw many into depression because they don’t essentially get what they had hoped out of their excitement.
You will be fine….
I know this is totally pathetic.
This is real…lol, I have seen and dealt with many cases like this…I charge for my services though……
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a lot is happening in your life.
don’t worry, your big dy will be so beautiful and you’ll insha Allah be very happy…everyone’s praying for you.