One can be partly but accurately known by...

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…the kinds of questions one asks.

what is your perspective on this?

Dushwari

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My perspective is that you are a genuine case of "girl gone nuts". Jokes apart, you come up with some brilliant questions.

My take is that you cannot know someone accurately unless you know her/him fully. Your statement could be true for non living systems like machines and stuff but not for humans.

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Ummm What was the question again?:)

Anyway...I do think a fairly basic impression can be formed by the type of questions one asks.

Then again you have to factor in several things...
1. the person has to be relatively comfortable in that environment when asking the question
2. The persons should not have had too much time to think of the question ie it should be relatively instinct and not planed and thought about...(to know what they are really like)
3. This should be a genuine question not trying to impress someone by asking the question.

Of course do not judge anyone on any first impressions...this rule applies mostly...and so dont judge too easily on the questions they (I) ask!!!

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I would say that questions that we ask out of interest do reflect our self, Not only our questions but the way we write, and what we write can also tell alot about us, if analyzed critically.

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sometimes, questions which are asked also include their answers within, to help the clueless pick up on them, yet, rarely someone can be that perceptive.

of course, human behavior is conventionally bind by the needs of times or of other people one is trying hard to please

but the better thing to do is be responsible for one's own questions, such as this: "can i stay?" and then mean it to get a good answer and then not become unpredictable, appearing to be unkind and confused.

in the world of ordinary people, this happens all so often that people think of lame questions which likely are to be answered just as lamely by people who do not value the person who asked the questions in the first place.

being true to one's own self is one way that can send a message to others, that they can be trusted. that their questions mean something to them first. no?
it may sound different, but the hope is to place emphasis on a true question – a given question, which when answered with certainty, is reciprocated with affirming certainty as an obligate.

and many people miss this point, on very crucial turning points in their lives.

infiniti, humans are social animals, so perhaps humans can be assessed based on their questions, but i agree that most humans are unpredictable which is not healthy for themselves.

aly_sam, your comment make very good sense.

words, thanks for the straight forward comment.

thanks, all once again. Dushwari

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Peace Dushwari

One can be partly but accurately known by the kinds of questions one asks themselves ...

The question one asks to others may be structured in a way to gauge the answer to other (secret) questions inside the mind of the questionner.

Just as you have asked us above:

"what is your perspective on this?"

That is not the same question you have asked yourself ... that question is hidden to us ... It could be:

  • Let's see if they can get this right!, or
  • What do other people think, or
  • I need some help here, or
  • Let's see if I'm right, or
  • Is there anyone out there who thinks like me? and so on ...
*~*~*SiLvEr JuBlIe*~*~*
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Psyah,

i concur and i would say that i do think like you.
please know though, that i did not mean to trick anyone in asking this simple question or inviting to a comment.

Dushwari

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Peace Dushwari

It only crossed my mind when I was exploring the options of my discourse, I never entertained the notion that you intended to outwit anyone. :)

If anything, I get the feeling (not the same as substantiated signs) that you are trying to get to the bottom of something, to understand, to become if not wiser in process of reflection and pondering. You needn't answer that. You see opening up and relating ones hidden thoughts on a platter for all to see is quite a hard thing to do.

It is expected to be done by those who are close to you.

It is the best way to get understanding. Sometimes people feel they need to swear, sometimes it may be sent towards me. If I respond with hurt then they have achieved what they intended. Instead, I quickly realise that those people who feel they need to swear do so as a method to vent off the rage they are experiencing from within. If anything this thought makes me feel sorry for them that they are in such torment and that enables me to walk by with a calming smile.

Ofcourse it can happen the other way round ... some questions can be asked to get an understanding of the level of honesty in a person, when it proves negative with those you love, that can be a sore point!

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Psyah,
thanks for response, here. i concur, again.
a deep sense of pain, sadness and humiliation collects to the brim of sincerity and yet still unperturbed, the sore-ing agent's own diminutive nature for its own self betrayal becomes an apprehension for the not valued.. the rule being consistent and predictable, for that distinguishes the reasonability of self-disclosure.
even as true caring feelings are demurred undeniably, for honest forgiveness to ensue, first raveling for rationalization by both the questioner and the answerer may prove more direct and less convoluted in its course to increase the likelihood of a calming smile, if you will...
the logic behind the demise of the once-thought-to-be-constructed-affinity ( in answering that question), has to get generated naturally; it will take place in accordance with a wrap up of loose ends, or else even negative won’t fully feel like a negative, as there is no absolute sign of it carrying itself as an absolute self-determined negative.

from human affect and intentional aspects, it is this very conundrum, that is of real nomological value to decode. all effort to this point will fail, an honest-to-God-effort to still be able to heal by querying the query-maker, and the answerer likewise; to get to not only the bottom of it, but the inner most depth of all of it.
thanks,
Dushwari

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I ask way too many questions and I have been like this for as long as I can remember. Some of my questions are just plain dumb. That doesn't accurately describe me if I happen to ask a stupid question or an intelligent one. What it does describe though is the comfort zone of the person and how far he/she is willing to go to get answers (meaning not caring how stupid one may look).

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Supernova Girl,

no question is stupid. when questions are not asked and answered, that can create a pause while time does not wait. i agree that an inquisitive nature will have you spontaneously ask questions and as long it suits the relation between the asker and the responder, as long as it is a meaningulful question, it must be asked.
best,

Dushwari

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A leader once collected the children in his area and said;

Only if I come to know the "way of thinking" of all these children I can tell you right now who among them would rise how much in future.