Pyaree, finding a good nursing home for parents is not some kind of disservice to them as many of the desis think. YOu really think that none of the Gora people actually love their parents and hence throw them in senior homes? I like to think that its the other way around. Gora people love to give a dignified life to their parents, not the life where bahoo is charaa'oing her naak or grand kids refuse to go and hug dada/dadi because they are sick.
I have seen my naani in this situation and Alhamdulilah, all her children and daughter in laws looked after her well, my naani hated teh care workers touching her..she only wanted my mum or her bahoos to help her out, as far as grandkids go, we all used to keep her company and even our children loved her to bits, so much so that they used to complain if they hadnt been to see her, the house feels so empty without her....we all miss her dearly
as far as non Pakistanis are concerned, it is heart breaking for elderly parents when their children tell them that it is best that they go to a carehome...they leave the life that they once knew and the house where they shared many happy memories behind.....i think sending parents to a care home is more about selfishness than love, as they dont want to take on the responsibility...i for one would not want to be left all alone surrounded by strangers at this stage in life.