ok so the situation is that this girl was married to a respectable handsome man through an arranged marriage she fell in love with him but he passed away four months into their marriage.
now 6 months later she engaged to the guy she secretly crushed on before she met her husband. now the the thing is she doesn’t know what to do with all the romantic gifts her former hubby gave her.
should she keep the marriage band or is it disrespectable to take any marriage albums or videos or memories from this previous marriage into the new one??
it's upto her and her husband! would he allow her to bring her baggage and keep it w/ her for the rest of her life...
memories never really die... even if you get rid of things from ur past, u still cant erase the endless memories :)
perhaps this new husband will giv her a fresh start, and at some point she wont even care if she's lingering on to those old albums.. cuz the real thing would be her life at present! may Allah keep her happy.
Sad but get on with life... kuch logon ki kismat esey he bunti hai.
About your question... YES she should keep her old stuff. If we are going to get into this he is dead you shouldn't keep it then what if she had a kid? Would you be thinking about throwing that away? Her new husband should understand and get on with life and if love is true chances are they will forget that there even was her first marriage.
If there were no kids, then no reason to display those things...to keep locked away, not always looking at it every day, but not throwing it away, just saving htose, i dont think it's bad..
^^
Agreed. Keep the stuff....but no need to look at it all the time. Its hers and part and parcel of her past....Unless of course, they bring up bad memories which does not seem so as we see that she fell in love with him.
Sad situation, but it shows it is possible to love more than one person in your life-time
^^
Agreed. Keep the stuff....but no need to look at it all the time. Its hers and part and parcel of her past....Unless of course, they bring up bad memories which does not seem so as we see that she fell in love with him.
Sad situation, but it shows it is possible to love more than one person in your life-time
The PAST makes your PRESENT and the PRESENT makes your FUTURE
So it's always going to be there......
"I have a book of memories, it's not upon a shelf, it's deep within my heart and the key I keep myself"
The PAST makes your PRESENT and the PRESENT makes your FUTURE
So it's always going to be there......
"I have a book of memories, it's not upon a shelf, it's deep within my heart and the key I keep myself"
Nice said.
But as long as you do not live in either the past or the future...the present is too precious to let slip away...after all thats what we have. Past is gone future may never come...
Reminds me of "If I ignore the future , maybe it will go away":D
she should do what she is comfortable with. if she throws it away she is not a horrible person if she keeps the stuff she is not letting down her current husband.
What about - she puts it away in a concealed place, not deliberately out of reach but not deliderately in view either. That way in 6 months time/12 months time she can evaluate if she needs it to be there or can cope with it confined to the back of the garage, and maybe one day in the future as part of a clean up she can donate to charity shop???
She should keep the stuff her former husband gave to her. But don't always keep going back to it. She won't exactly get over the stuff, but it should help her to get over the fact that her former husband is gone now.
yeah i know its really sad but also goes to show if their meant to be they will always come together they both went through other marriages this current man is divorced, but back when she was single she was always hesitating to express her feelings to him. and look at how they came together. but thanks for ur responses .
and there are no kids she had a miscarriage. she found out she was preganant after his death but unfortunately never carried that baby to term. so yeah life is sad.
she was engaged to her cousin before she was married, but that never worked out and she left those engagement pics and video with her parents and returned the ring to her aunt.
It's obviously a personal choice and the decision is up to you and your now husband. Although personally I wouldnt hold on to any memories of my past marriage and bring into a new relationship/marriage.....perhaps keeping a small keepsake would be ok.
