I’m trying to avoid a few people like the plague, especially since they’re married now, and for some reason, if I act like my usual self, I’m afraid it might be seen as flirting.
I hate how I cannot be friends with these guys anymore, because prior to their nikkah, we were on good friends terms, even though nothing had worked out between any of these gentlemen and myself.
What’s weird is how some of their wives and I are good friends, so end up hanging out together, because we’re all in the same social group.
I have been avoiding gatherings, just for this reason.
I know, I know - get a new set of friends. But it is NOT that easy.
Ever been in this situation? I try to keep my communication with these guys strictly to a minimum and if its necessary, since I do work with them on certain projects and ventures. I can’t completely cut all of them off.
I think its natural to avoid "old crushes who are now married" as it may result in you putting urself in an awkward situation.....i guess when the other person is not married, u can be urself around them but once they're married..things change..an invisible boundary is formed which u don't consciously wish to cross
But why must you worry? If you had no romantic relationship with them earlier on, just have a casual relationship even now…especially since you’re friends with their wives also. My husband still talks with his female friends from school/high school/college and I’m perfectly OK with it (), yes I am () and I still talk with my male friends from college and my husband is perfectly OK with it …
Please focus on the first part of my message would ya!
I would use to keep his post card in my book, he looked tooooo handsome in that photo. Wearing a navy blue full sleeves sweater, n his innocent smile on his face (in those days he would look innocent) … hi hi mainoon koi uss warga labb jaey phir se
PCG..... As a wife, I would hate it if my hubby had female friends who would joke around in a flirtatious style or something. But then, in your case these women might be open-minded and okay with that. I know I'm not that open-minded but some females are.
Its good that you're being careful..... maybe you just need to be more careful in how you talk to them when hanging out but you don't need to avoid them.... just be a little cautious :) As long as you don't end up blatantly flirting, you should be good.
I think some people take jokes and laughing as indeed flirting. I don't, but I get the feeling that this one guy I talk to totally does. And I told him once, look i'm not flirting with you, wouldn't sleep with you if you gave me a million dollars. Nope, that just made it worse.
We have this one kid - he was SOOOOOOO friendly with everyone. Just got married. Wife comes to parties with him, and makes him sit in a corner with her isolated - he's not allowed to talk to any of us girls at all. I even tried smiling at her - she scowled back!
TLK, I asked one of them out once - some years ago. Which did not go over well at all, because I was told I was being "inappropriate". Meanwhile, he had a gf. Who he is now married to. Who is a good friend of mine.
Awkward...
The others, no I did not flirt with them. I did consider whether I should pursue them, simply because they were single and desi and around my age...which makes me feel weirded out now when I'm around them. Like...yeah, we're hanging out and you're married, and I almost thought about pursueing you...
I feel that it is more tasteful to make the situation non-awkward. Crushes shouldnt be made aware of the fact unless you intend upon acting on it either. So, In the case that they have no idea that you harboured a burning flame for them..why should they treat you any differently considering that from the other side it was platonic all along?
I fall in love repeatedly with women who turn out to be married... for example, I've been in love with Shehnaz Sheikh for more than two decades now... and she's married... so, what do I do?
still thinking of sending Ammi to Shehnaz's parents... because I'm super dheet...
), yes I am (
and my husband is perfectly OK with it 
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