Would you be offended if your finacee’s sister was visiting your country for leisure and didnt pay a visit at your place cuz “its too far away”?
Lets say the distance between her leisure place and your place is a 4 hours drive.
and prior to her booking of the travel, you invited her to come over to your place so you could go together for the leisure place with her son as she was complaining that she cant find anybody to go with, and her answer was plain “No, its too far coming to your place”, and since she didnt invite you to meet there, you are not going.
4 hours is too far. SInce I moved to Canada from the UK last year, I've been 4 hours away from one of my chachus. In 17 months I haven't visited him. 4 hours is simply too far.
No, I wouldn't be offended.
People need space. Even if she was looking for someone to vacation with, you might not have been the one she could let her hair down with.
And maddy......four hour drives in North America are not considerable distances. If you were only here for a week or so, it could be over-looked. But 17 months! I would be terribly offended if I was your uncle.
4 hours isn't such a short drive and she has a kid with her too which makes it a tougher. If she was going to be in your town and then refused to see you, yes that would be offensive. If u really really want to meet her go and visit her. From what you tell, your in-laws aren;t too crazy about you and ur sis-in-law has avoided you in the past too. If I were you I would just care about keeping my fiance happy and forget about going out of my way to please the others.
dont get offended, its all down to affection and how close your families are.
my wife's sisters has only visited my place in Pakistan just last month for the first time in life after my insistance and i was there and we are married since more than one year. they live in same city :)
for me it was a concern, but every family is different I suppose.
Lets say the distance between her leisure place and your place is a 4 hours drive.
and prior to her booking of the travel, you invited her to come over to your place so you could go together for the leisure place with her son as she was complaining that she cant find anybody to go with, and her answer was plain "No, its too far coming to your place", and since she didnt invite you to meet there, you are not going.
So, reason to be offended?
maybe she is very carefull not to interfere in the relationaship btw you and her brother:D...and doesn't want to be seen as a disturbing SIL ;)
na wouldnt bother me... if she probably alone it might have been easier for her but dragging a kid around for fours hours.. yikes..! did u offer to go meet her there?
