Okay well, placenta eating is off my list, so let’s cross that one out. And somebody told me as Muslims we should arrange to have it buried because it’s a part of the baby. Is this true?
Home births - as it’s the first time round, going the clinical ‘safe’ way with expensive doctor and hospital checked.
But if I could afford it, I would love to have a doula. THere are so many offering their services and are qualified - they give an immense amount of emotional and physical support to mother and both parents up to and after birth.
I have e-mailed one who offers classes on parenting, feeding and a whole range of other services. We are going to go to regular antenatal classes at the hospital too, but in an ideal world, I want to marry the experiences.
This lady believes in the following quote:
“If a woman doesn’t look like a Goddess during birth then someone isn’t treating her right.” Ina May Gaskin.
Don’t know if this is possible!
I’m sure the charges may be immense but maybe even one session with her may help. I am the youngest in my family, haven’t had chotay bachey around me and obviously want to do things right and not deprive my baby (inshAllah) of anything that may benefit it from now until it is in this world.
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As for burying the placenta, there is no Quranic evidence that suggests that you have to do it. Some people like to make our religion overly complicated for no reason.
As far as home births, ask yourself this, would you risk your baby’s life simply to believe in the fact that “people have been having babies for millenia at home, why should I be different?” Well people have also been dying of influenza for millenia, they have also been dying of infections for millenia but we use penicillin to cure simple infections. Yes 9/10 you probably can give birth at home without any complications but what about that 1/10 time when you would have been fine if you were at a hospital but because you were at home, you didn’t have access to certain professionals or meds or facilities and you could risk your baby’s life?
As far as doulas, they have their place. They are like a sister, there for you, getting you ice chips, cheering you on, helping after the birth with diapers, sleep, nursing. Doulas are great if you don’t have that close family support.
I really am excited about your baby, I can’t wait. You and C are going to be awesome parents inshallah.
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I had a doula for both my kids. They were very sweeta nd helpful. I managed to find both for free as one didn’t charge anything as she did it for community service and the other one said that she won’t charge anything if I allowed to bring a student doula with her.
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I’ve always been leery of home births simply because there is no pain relief offered. A few ladies I know have had home births with the assistance of midwives: with and without complications. I’m always going to go the hospital route, if I have any say in it. One of the girls I know started bleeding heavily halfway through and had to be rushed to the ER for an emergency delivery, one of them went on to have three home births with no complications, and one ended up giving birth at home simply because I don’t believe her midwife was honest with her or very willing to transport her to hospital when she was in labour. I just don’t trust midwives after that, which, I get is a blanket statement but all of the ones I’ve spoke to are all pro-natural delivery, at home, and anti-pain relief. At one point I really thought In short: I support your hospital birth choice!
Doulas sound like a great idea! I hope it works out for you iA. So excited! Babies are the best.
Don’t know if this is possible!