thats a very very selfish deed on her part. its not wise at all and if her husband did something about it then she must not blame him for she had it coming bcos of her own stupidity. its one thing to be careful and think about security...but its totally different to take rash steps without thinking about consequences. he only wants to help his family. if i were in his place, i would have done the same thing, also making sure i'll get the money back when needed. they are my family and if they need my help, i'll provide whatever i can. in no way this means i'll be neglecting my own family but what good a money in account is if i can't use it to help my family in time of need. she is saying they have 150k in income/account but who knows how true is that. she seems like a hot-headed person who would go to any extreme to have things her way...even if it means putting her own family n relationship on line.
i too think she took a very rash n emotional decision tht can lead to harsh consequences.lets think this way wats more imp money or ur relation with ur spouse.wat if he leaves her over this one thing.wat security she or her kids hav then n the family will still get the money.so win ur battle with strategy n not lose it with emotions.she should appologize him n return the money back to their joint.unless she wants to leave him for the money