To all the males (married & unmarried)
Would you marry your unmarried daughter with divorced/widowed or would you prefer someone young & virgin like her who is more suitable for her? If yes then provide 3 logical reasons.
To all the females (married & unmarried)
Would you marry your unmarried son with divorced/widowed or would you prefer someone young & virgin like him who is more suitable for him? If yes then provide 3 logical reasons.
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I would let my son and daughter decide for themselves, even if I have my own preferences.. I'm not some crazy control freak..
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^ I second that. The only time I'd interfere is if I smell a gold-digger.
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Talk about a failed thread...this is a mega failure....!
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Talk about a failed thread...this is a mega failure....!
failed thread to mera tha. lol.
i would let my son choose for himself. And if he had a choice of a virgin, a widow or divorced woman i would say judge according to her character, personality, how religiously compatible she is, and if she will value similar values, love him and whether he can see himself growing old with her in a happy, harmonious relationship without many arguments.
If widowed it is not her fault
If divorced- he would know the circumstances and maybe he has made peace with it
i think we know what our choices might be but would we want to impose on our kids because if the marriage fails after you recommended it you will be blamed all your life.
i would be a pretty chilled out mother in law. My future daughter in law will be so lucky to have me.
It should definitely be their choice, but in a case of one person previously married and other person never, it might be hard for the unmarried person in the future to adjust. Yes right now I am in love with this beautiful widow and think that it's the most noble thing for me to do is to marry her, but after marriage, when she is sitting alone, in my mind she might be thinking of him, or comparing me with him or missing him.
Btw I know divorced ladies who said no to a never married rishta because they believed that he will not be able to adjust.
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my son is free to marry whomever he wants. As long as she's hot, because obviously I want good looking grand babies
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Virgin? So do you ask them outright hey are you a virgin lol
Id give my child the choice to decide on their future and i would offer my advise but never force or push them around
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I would let my son and daughter decide for themselves, even if I have my own preferences.. I'm not some crazy control freak..
^ This. My husband & I chose each other. My son or daughter can marry whoever they feel is compatible for them. Their marriage should be about their happiness...not mine. The only time I may try to interfere is if I find out facts which leads me to believe that my child's safety might be in danger (ex. let's say the girl or boy they like has past criminal convictions for drugs or other serious crimes).
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Reading all these threads makes me wanna have a lot of kids. One dives off the cliff, I still have 9 more.
Just realized this isn't the cliff thread. Facepalm!