As a child I remember how it was almost unheard of for desi people to put their parents into nursing homes, yet these days its more heard of.
How would you feel about having to put your own parents into a home? As a parent, how would you feel if your own children placed you in one?
when my grandparents got really ill the docs here suggested putting them in the nursing home..because they needed care 24/7 and its hard to do that in this country specially...but my parents..my uncle aunts provided 24/7 service for them...i remember my uncles and my dad staying up all night on the chair in hospital to be there for them and go back to work the next morning..they took care of them until the very end
my grandmother (mom side) had kidney failures so she had to go to the hospital very often for dialasis sp?...one of my uncle was studying abroad and he left everything and came back..he'd massage her feet all night...and both of my uncles tookcare of her until she died
i am not sure about others but i cant think bout living without my parents..i need to see them everyday..i need to see them happy...nothing would make me happy if they are not happy..i love them more than anything..i can just die for my parents..oh god i get too emotional when i talk bout my parents :)
I wouldnt put my parents there, and I wouldnt like my children to put me in one either.
i would never put them in nursing homes
but if they need 24/7 care and i dont have any other option then i would have to go for it
Putting one's parents in a home was traditionally not done by desis, because the housewife was always at home and available 24/7 to look after the parents / parent-in-laws / aged uncles / aged aunties.
I think that it is the advent of the working woman that has led to there no longer being someone at home 24/7, and hence the increasing prevalance of nursing home culture.
Thats a very good point Mad Scientist, although in pakistan many woman go out to work yet there aren't many nursing homes (that I know of)
Sheraz, you should feel really proud of your family. Its very admirable what they did for your grandparents
Most old people in west are not sent by their kids to old houses as generally perceived by us - but they themselves choose to go when they become too old to take care of themselves and most of them are already living away from their kids.. for example when old couples cant drive for groceries .. I am intersted in that old generation of people here in USa as they are a generation that had principles, are hard working and came out of depression era and have great ego as compared to the jolly baby boomers..
In our society we usually live with our parents all our lives so idea of sending them to old houses would seem rather harsh.. and it wont be accepted as moral.. but many old couples might chose to go there may be in future when families would be living more like western people...
Re: Nursing Homes
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As a child I remember how it was almost unheard of for desi people to put their parents into nursing homes, yet these days its more heard of.
How would you feel about having to put your own parents into a home? As a parent, how would you feel if your own children placed you in one?
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I would not even consider it.I mean I think that for muslims...I mean to put parents in such un islamic homes,Id never do it.If it gets hard to take care of parents....a nurse can be hired to come help you at home.Personally I would take care of my parents when they get older.They did everything for me...and no matter what...I can never do enough for them to thank them for all that they have done for me.
When parents get older...they need to be around an islamic environment.To have people read Quran and hadith around them.BEcause thats very important..for them to have faith esp when they are no longer to maybe perform some tasks for themselves.Life looks bleak and hopless in those times.So they need loving children and relatives....to give them care and understanding.
Nops.... Never....
Cant even think to Put My Parents in such N.Homes... No way