My kids are attending public pools for swim classes. In the change room, people are always careful not to expose themselves to kids. I never had any bad experience till today. Today, this chinese lady was fully naked, walking around. She didnt bother to even wrap a towel or anything. She took her time. Dressed up her kids boy about 4 or 5 and girl about 2.
I felt very uncomfortable. There were not many people in the change room. My daughter was in shower and i told her to stay there till i get her. I was dressing my son and tried to move him around to different places so he doesnt see her.
I felt so bad. Iam sure my son would have seen her. Hes 3.
How do you guys deal with in such situations. Am in worrying for nonreason?.
My kids are attending public pools for swim classes. In the change room, people are always careful not to expose themselves to kids. I never had any bad experience till today. Today, this chinese lady was fully naked, walking around. She didnt bother to even wrap a towel or anything. She took her time. Dressed up her kids boy about 4 or 5 and girl about 2.
I felt very uncomfortable. There were not many people in the change room. My daughter was in shower and i told her to stay there till i get her. I was dressing my son and tried to move him around to different places so he doesnt see her.
I felt so bad. Iam sure my son would have seen her. Hes 3.
How do you guys deal with in such situations. Am in worrying for nonreason?.
In the men's change room they always seem to be roaming around without any clothes, this is just the culture here,
It reminds of the locker room in my high school PE class. It came as a shock to me that the girls would change out of their clothes in front others...no shyness in exposing themselves. Are there bathroom stalls around? If so, your kids can change there.
I wouldn't say that you're worrying for no reason. People vary in their degree of modesty. Kids are very observant and curious and it's natural for a parent to be concerned about how that would affect them. After all, we also monitor what they watch on TV or hear on the radio, etc. It's not appropriate for either gender to view the other's awrah; so no I don't think you're wrong in your concern. Hayaa should be an integral component in how we conduct ourselves. And this brings to mind a desi wedding I attended where the hosts decided to bring in a belly dancer sporting a bra about 3 sizes too small...and one of the first things that came to mind was how something like that would impact any young children at the wedding...shudders
There are 2 showers and change room only and everyone tries to take use these.Others are showers stalls but they are too wet for kids to chnage.. This is my first experience in such a situation. Everyone else tries to cover as much as they can and never had any issue. But this particular lady was too keen on showing herself to everybody.
Unfortunately, you can't control what other people are going to do. Some people just have a very lax attitude about these matters. All you can do is teach your children right from wrong and try to work around this situation. As wet as the shower stalls might be, it can still somehow be managed to change clothes in there...and then kids can take a proper shower when they get home...especially if you're in a hurry to leave the place. The issue here is not so much that other people are exposing their bodies because you can't stop them; the issue is that you don't want your children exposed to that so all you can do is have them change in another location in such situations. You'll have to work around it.
I am not sure if I am comfortable with people referring to choice of clothing as good and bad. Clothing is a personal choice and people have the freedom within rules, laws and customs to do as they please. We really detest when people judge us so we should refrain from judging others.