yes im serious!
lol lol
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Bon bon, they messed up everything, it was awful. I'm so supervising everything. Oh one thing that made me anger even more, tell me if this happened to you guys. For example when I tried to do something or make sure it happened or tried doing it myself, for example going to the deisgner myself, or the bazaar to do stuff etc or wanted to go to the tent area, just to over see whats up! etc, did people stop you? Saying your a dulhan and you should relax and chill and let people take care of stuff etc. I mean its my wedding, if other people over see it, then everything or some will be of their chocie not of mine. Why do people in pakistan forget that its actualy someone's wedding and thier opnion is important. Infact everything should be there way :S and after it, its lke Thank God its over and I honestly was upset about the decor and color combinations used.. but there was no point. I'm one of those people who work better under pressure, and if i'm not in control, I literally loose my mind :S hehehhehe
I would change the tent color :S The stupud people didnt do what I asked for :S and I had no choice at the end. What really upsets me is that, just becuase we come from abaord and dont have much experience or time to arrange weddings In pakistan, they think they can rip us off and cheat us! Oh it so upset me! Thank God It was only my Nikkah, when I have my ruksati, I'm definitely gonna be a bridezilla and ill go stand in that tent or whatever and make sure all the deco is done under my supervision! Seriously!
DolceVita, this is a common problem for people coming from abroad who have their wedding in Pakistan. What I advise my friends and family is to make sure that u do not pay them until after the wedding.
Be a bridezilla... Tell them what u want, and if they don´t deliver you will cut on the money you were supposed to pay. It really works... cause in pakistan, until you have the money they will listen, once they have the money.... you will cry.
**When I got engaged, the function was all planned at 11th hour...we had no time to arrange any photographer/videographer.. this is the thing we too regretted..
Next: The FIRST thing at our Nikkah we did was to arrange a professional photographer... Again another blunder... My uncle gave my husband "phuloun ka haar" and so as my SIL gave one to me... I am super irritated by it.. asked my sis to pull it off.... But my husband have it till the end of the function.... Plus he was wearing a kurta and duppata that day... he couldnt anage duppata and that phuloun ka haar...
Next at my shadi hope things would be much better!
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^ugh i hated that phoolon ka haar so much! i had told everyone strictly not to give me any and certainly not to expect me to wear it! as it is i was expecting to struggle with the 40 pounds wedding jora, jewelry and the dupatta, no need for extra stress. at my mehndi, noone got any garlands so when my husband walked in, alot of the aunties started asking who the groom was because he had walked in with so many of mine and my siblings’ friends that the room was filled with 20-something boys 
so to avoid confusion, my sister took this hawaiin looking garland (yellow and blue flowers) from god knows where and my husband even wore it!!! later on i was a bit upset and didn’t wanna go down to the mehndi so he came upstairs and as soon as i saw him, i started laughing soooo hard. i was like WHY are you wearing that ugly thing? later when we sat on the sofa together, all my friends/cousins/siblings were laughing at the garland with us because my husband would not take it off and all of a sudden my mom came and she was like, YEH kisne pehna diya tumhe??!! utaro!!! it was the funniest moment of our mehndi.
then again at nikkah, when he walked in with the baraat, my sister put a garland around his neck as it’s tradition and he wore it until we did the nikkah in the seperate room. when we were about to walk into the ballroom, i told him to take it off and he’s like, why, it looks so nice, i wanna wear it.. 
i was like no way, you can wear it after we walk in.. lol.. and made eye contact with my sister to hide that haar as soon as it comes off.. he seemed to REALLY love those garlands.. just as much as i dislike them.
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What's the hate with the garlands, I think they look kinda cute
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sigh What didn't go wrong at my wedding?? I must say I am very happy where I am now M'A se but there were some things that went wrong that I wish I could have changed: the video guy did a terrible job. He wasn't cheap but not expensive either. The professionals who had done my sisters wedding had raised their prices because they are soo popular and even at their old price my Mom could not afford them(my fam and my bro in laws fam split the price b/w one another) hence we got this other guy who didn't tape my entrance and basically his video looked like something an amateur did :-( Also, the day of my mehndi my cousin forgot her cd which not only had the music mix they made to their group dance but another cousins solo and we did not have the same song so they did not do their dances!! I wish they could have gone back home and gotten the cd but they lived too far away. Also, the mehndi candles I bought could not be lit b/c the director of the center had a cow when we asked her if we could. "Its a fire code safety, for your protection ladies."! Grr,my gorgeous candles went to waste and now my other cousin may get to use them. I could go on and on but I don't want to discourage future brides and don't want to seem ungrateful. I am happy my Mom at least got me the perfect dress, the perfect makeup artist, good food, and most of all-I thank Allah for blessing me with my hubby!
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I just want to remind future bides, there is no such thing as a perfect wedding. Just pray to Allah everything goes well and hope for the best. Don't expect every wish and detail to be met cuz I have never seen a wedding or heard from anyone that their wedding events were everything they wished for. At least one or two things didn't pan out.
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^ ah yes i remmeber the music now. apparently some lady complained abt hte music and the stupid DJ listened to her. it still annoys me that i didn’t get to walk in to the song i wanted to. 
This is sooooo much like me..
On our Enagagement as the ladkay walay came garlands were given,My fiance’ seemed to b loving it…after a while i was like plz take it off, asked my SIL and my Brother to take that phoolon wala haar off from him but i guess it was there till the func ended…
lets see what happens on the wedding…just hope everything goes well InshAllah..
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Nice topic bonbon
Seriously - I wish I got nicer pictures on my wedding day. I should have done the pictures before the reception but there wasn't any time. I was exhausted at the end of the night.
I also wished I got my wedding day dress from my own choice or had my mom make it.
My walima pictures were really nice but the weddings one were really bad.
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I wish I had taken over the "what time are we going to go in" bit that way pictures wouldn''t have been pushed back, food wouldn't have been pushed back and I could have at least enjoyed a bit of the food, enjoyed the chocolate fountain I was soooo looking forward to having a bit of, and finally my limo driver wouldn't have left after waiting for an hour. (totally not his fault he had someone else to pick up). :S
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At my sister's wedding...............wow.
The caterers messed up the weddng menu LAST MINUTE. They forgot the appetizers and dessert and switched one of our salans to lamb instead of goat. No one in my family eats or likes lamb so can you imagine the drama? There were gallons of salan left over that we just gave away later.
We didnt have any pakoras or samosay for the guests either. There was a wedding going on next door that heard about our dilemma and decided to help out because I knew them. They were cousins of my best friend. They divided their appetizers and dessert with us as they had extra and we had none. We were able to save ourselves from humiliation...oh it was HORRID!
We didnt pay the caterers for that event...thats for sure.
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I hated my make-up.. The MUA had previously done the makeup for my cousins engagement and I really liked it, so I thought not to bother with the trial (saving £50) but then hated ny wedding day AND Valima day make up.. she would not listen to what I wanted and insisted she knew what she was doing.. I wasnt allowed to sit near a mirror! urgh, hated it so much, i cant bear to look at my wedding photo's. Even when I told her that I wasnt really happy with my lipstick colour frosty pink she said i couldnt change it as it may ruin her reputation if i 'spoilt' my look.. Also, ppl commented that my skin looked dark cos of all the bronzing she did on my face - when i specifically asked her not to!!! BTW, the MUA was zainab in Harrow...