Now my Relatives!

[Iyla]

@redvelvet

Sara,

You said that your uncle treats your family like this often. Maybe they wanted the party to take place at their home. Maybe they were jealous that your mom/family would look like the ones who did the most work…and might have felt self-conscious about you guys looking better than them in the video…so they excluded you from the video taping. I wish the benefit of the doubt could be given that they somehow forgot to include you. Oversights can happen…but if they’ve shown a pattern of treating your family badly, then it becomes harder to make excuses for them. Or it could be that they didn’t want to use their video camera and since your family suggested he bring it, this was their way of getting you back . Either way, a juvenile thing to do. Here’s what I think:

1) Do NOT do the same thing that your uncle did. Otherwise there’d be no difference b/w you and them. Instead, find ways to put your uncle on the spot…shame him.

but if she finds ways to shame him - that would make her the same as her uncle!!

also it takes too much time and effort to find ways to shame her uncle. people like him are common and are simply not worth such effort.