what are diff reasons due to which immigrant parents (Pakistani) are confused or scared of sending their child/ren to preK or nursery school at age 3?
do you think that it does have a negative impact on the ability of the children in learning the second language later than earlier or feel not wanting to go to school where other students are different?
any thoughts by parents of 3-5 years old?
Dushwari
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Hmmmmm... I started at kindergarten.. i dont know if going to nursery/pre-K is actually mandatory or not. Does it help the kid do better in school? I have no idea..maybe the immigrant parents are just really afraid than anything else and want to hold on to their children for a lil bit longer..?
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I sent my lil one @1 yr 8 months. Reason she could not walk nor talk at this age. Also was having probs eating. Well she started to walk almost immediately after she started school. She still does not talk, but understands everything in 3-4 languages. It was a great help sending her to school and I don't regret at all. She loves it there.
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^ did she cry after you dropped her off in school for a few days or did she get used to it after the first day?
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I sent my lil one @1 yr 8 months. Reason she could not walk nor talk at this age. Also was having probs eating. Well she started to walk almost immediately after she started school. She still does not talk, but understands everything in 3-4 languages. It was a great help sending her to school and I don't regret at all. She loves it there.
thats great
how old is she now?
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Today, my daughter started her Pre-K (cause she is few months shy of 5 year mark)
Pre-school should be done on needs bases only (as done in case of Aly-Sam and she saw the positive results of doing that)
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I personally think...its kinda unfair to a lil kid by sending them to prep school at a very tender age.
Reason: The poor kid has to learn and study for next coming 20-25 years of his/her life.Why rush if they have to study regardless for that long period of time. atleast let them enjoy their first few free years .
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^ age 4-5 is the age when they are developing their social skills and yet already potty trained, can speak properly and understand the concept of school and what not. That is a very good time for them to start Pre-K or kindergarden so they can meet kids of their age
There is no burden on them. They just play, talk, learn few basic things, go on field trips what not, and that only for very few hours (2-3) of the day and not even every day of the week (only 3 days maybe)
As far as pre-school is concerned (which is 4 and lower), I agree that it shoul be done if needed
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^ age 4-5 is the age when they are developing their social skills and yet already potty trained, can speak properly and understand the concept of school and what not. That is a very good time for them to start Pre-K or kindergarden so they can meet kids of their age
There is no burden on them. They just play, talk, learn few basic things, go on field trips what not, and that only for very few hours (2-3) of the day and not even every day of the week (only 3 days maybe)
As far as pre-school is concerned (which is 4 and lower), I agree that it shoul be done if needed
i absolutely agree with you...there is no haram at the age of 5 +. But below that age...like some of the posters mentioned like sending 2 to 3 years old to pre school. Thats not fair.If my ammi Abu did that to me i would sue them for such torture. :P
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thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts on this important topic for anyone who cares about parenting and has the experience and is kind to share with others.
een though i am in education research and my non experience in parenting precludes me from saying anything definitive, except that i do know about developmental milestones from growth and devlpt of an infant and a child.
for bonding, yes, the parents will have to train the child really well before the age of 4, to take pre schooling as a didactic experience.
with each increasing age at home beyond 4 years od age, child will tend to be less capable socially in order to perceive preschool environ as welcoming and comfortable.
so even if preschooling is for a few hours in early part of the day, from age 3 on wards, young children between the ages of 3-4 must learn and be ecouraged to adapt to the social setting of a pre-k school environ.
sara516, mauli, aqalless, tariqkhan, indopak - thanks all for your perspectives.
multilingualism is an issue in the immigrant families.
it also hugely depend on how nice a teacher is to each child. and able to instruct ath that tender age, without making any child feel like different.
aly sam you are absolutely right. children who are safe and nurtured in a loving environment will take preschooling as a fun learning experience.
Dushwari
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my son is 3 years and 3 months and tomorrow is gonna be his first day at school....
i hope i dont have to go pick him up after half an hour....
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^ did she cry after you dropped her off in school for a few days or did she get used to it after the first day?
Oh my...she took to it like a duck to water... She sat on the front row and looked up at the teacher with such fascination. All kids love her cos she cant talk and points a lot and does her "eeh Eeh" when she wants something.
thats great
how old is she now?
1 yr 11 mths
I personally think...its kinda unfair to a lil kid by sending them to prep school at a very tender age. Reason: The poor kid has to learn and study for next coming 20-25 years of his/her life.Why rush if they have to study regardless for that long period of time. atleast let them enjoy their first few free years .
She does not study, but rather interacts with people. She a real people person and now I see she was getting frustrated @ home. In my case, I think she would have sued me if I didn't take her to school! I actually did not want to take her so early, but I see I have made the right decision...its so obvious to me.
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You should consider the community where you live when you're making this decision. I also did not attend school until kindergarten and I think thats the best way to be a kid. But we live in a community where the vast majority of kids start pre-k between age 2 and age 3. By the time they get to kindergarten, they have friendships established and the routine of classroom down pat. It seems the way of life here and I think its best to go with the flow for something like this. Its not like they're sitting down to learn algebra...pre-k is all about fostering a love of learning new things and learning how to interact with others. Given a choice, I'd prefer to live in a community where my kids can be just kids lol! at least till kindergarten. but thats not the way of things in our community.