LP, I tried inventing a reward system where when they ask for something, I tell them to do such and such and I may reward them by buying that .. problem is that I give up in the middle of it and go and buy that stuff for them without them completing the chore that I gave them ..
ur rewarding them for their effort which is good enough…I’m not a parent but I know some parents have this philosophy of tough love, and while I understand it I dn’t thikn I agree with it.
I sometimes fear that I am spoiling my kids. When they ask me to buy something for them, no matter how expensive it is, I almost always buy it for them.
Dont ask me why and its not that I am rolling in money either. Its just that I cant say no to them. I think Decent6chora talked about that in his blog too where he cant say no to his princess and I totally relate to that.
BTW, my kids are not spoiled kids. They are very responsible for their age and today if I go and tell them that we cant buy it cause I cant afford, not only that they will not ask again but older one would run to her room and bring some money for me begging me to keep it just in case I need it for grocery or something.
Also they collect their cash allowance and give most of it away to the mosque fund where they go for the Quran class. I feel very emotional when I think that my daughters are in part supporting an orphanage in Afghanistan.
If money is not an object, where would you stop before you think that maybe you are spoiling your kid?
I think i’m so totally going to spoil mines :hinna:
MashAllah thats great that they are so sweet and considerate…thats good parenting
