Not saying No to your kids.

[TLK]

@aaliyahkhan1

But as u mentioned TLK…its ok to spoil them, but make sure you follow through with what you say..so that they would not expect everything to come easily to them…

Actually they dont expect things to come easy to them. They know that mom and dad have complete authority to say no and Mrs often say no to them about things and it never happened that after getting no from mom, they came to me asking for the same cause they think I would agree. They never took advantage of such situation. Over all I think my kids are pretty well behaved kids (well, dont all parents think like such for their kids :D)

@Mamaof3

TLK, its amazing how individualized this whole thing is. My eldest and my youngest both never get greedy, they’ll ask for things but drop it if they’re told no. Middle son is SUCH a greedy little consumer tho. I have no idea where this comes from. But there it is. Its a sad and difficult thing to deal with for sure because I love to give them things when I can afford to. But I can no longer do this because when he gets more, he wants more. We had to institute a policy where he never asks for things but rather he goes and writes what he wants and why he wants it, keeps his list in his desk and it will be reviewed before christmas or birthday for top choices. Its kinda sad because he’s a boy with a huge and giving soul but he just has this driving greed. For THINGS.

I think the issue is my own mind set MO3. I did not have a very affluent childhood and unlike many of my classmates and friends, I did not enjoy many things that others did. Because of my experience, I delveloped two thought procesees.

1. Never tell my kids that we cant afford certain things. If we really cant buy it then I tell them that do dua that Allah gives daddy more money and inshallan then we will buy it.

2. There are things that a person (or a kid) can only enjoy at certain age and once that age is gone, that thing is usless for them.

With these 2 thoughths combined, everytime and anytime I can fullfil their wish, I go ahead and do that.

I just dont want them to feel the way I felt when I was a kid and did not have all the toys that my friends had.