Not Meant to Be?

system · March 19, 2012, 12:40pm

Re: Not Meant to Be?

Hello all. I am really upset and any insight/helpful advice would be much appreciated.

I am 24 years old. I am a lawyer and working at a law firm. Throughout my years of law school my parents were adamant that the marriage issues for me only be considered upon completion as they did not want to burden me and wanted me to finish, get a job first etc. Which is totally fine. I have now turned 24 and still not married. I finished post grad studies mid last year. Any rishta which comes along..something always occurs and it does not work out. I.e.: Isthikara turns out not good, or the guy is not educated or still at uni, etc. I know i shouldn’t be but I am really depressed. I used to be extremely outgoing, bubbly, talkative and now I can’t even smile. I feel like a robot going to work each day and do everything in a similar manner. Even my so-called best friend does not think i’ll ever get married. She got married last year. The issue is not that there are no rishtas, there are but something always goes wrong. Does this mean i’ll never get married? my mother always dismisses my concerns and asks how I can be so silly after studying so much but that’s how I feel. My younger cousin recently got married (although that was a love marriage and no one was happy) and I feel like a bigger loser now. I want to stop feeling this way because I am constantly in tears over this. I feel old and loserish and I don’t want to anymore

dont be so depressed,gals are marring at the age of 30’s,one thing if u have done istikhara n it truned out was not gud then don go for it as i hv heard from elders istakhara is like taking Allah advice…don marry jus to be married at the rite age marry a person u like to spend rest of ur life wid,start socializing it will help…being lonely is not the solution..