Not very proud of this but I’m not looking forward to it this year, mainly because ramzaan isn’t ramzaan when you’re away from home. It just doesn’t feel right. And when I’m away from home, I don’t end up doing enough ibadat doing ramzaan. I really wish I was at home during this time. Also, I don’t know how I’ll cope with not eating/drinking while enduring long hours in class and tiring walk to and from uni.
Help meee…give me some inspiration!!!
You and me are in the same boat. I cant be arsed to actually fast, so i started early. As in i am fasting presently (no eating just water) and then in two weeks i will be used to it so it will be normal. I am getting myself into that frame of mind. Maybe you can try that.
Plus when you live in a non-islamic country and you are the only person doing it, it is extremely tough as you have to change your schedule and the like. But cheer up, you can have your friends take special care of you. :D
Re: not looking forward to ramzaan
But ALLAH is everywhere even away from home:) and Roza is for ALLAH not for home so YES! It should not matter 
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Not very proud of this but **I'm not looking forward to it this year, mainly because ramzaan isn't ramzaan when you're away from home. It just doesn't feel right.* And when I'm away from home, I don't end up doing enough ibadat doing ramzaan. I really wish I was at home during this time. Also, I don't know how I'll cope with not eating/drinking while enduring long hours in class and tiring walk to and from uni.
Help meee...give me some inspiration!!!
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wah, what an excuse. seems like you like to fast for your family and not Allah. in that case you should not bother to even fast at all whether you are home / away. the significance of fasting is with religion and Allah and not family and where you live.
^ u should call urself BabyKarwaKarela :D hehe.. sorry hehe
it makes a huge difference where ur doing ramzan... im sure Catty doesnt fast for her family.. tsk but it certainly is different where and how u do it..
ive spent my life fasting in OZ.. the first time i went to Pakistan to have it with my relos.. it felt so wierd even though everyone is fasting.. it just doesnt feel the same..
ah Cm, I feel better after reading that.
babygulamjamun you talk such crap its unbelievable. dont judge me, coz you have no idea china!! ramzaan is a very personal thing and i like to make the most of it in every way possible. but when there are no muslims around you at all, it does become difficult. if you go to saudi arabia youll automatically start wearing a full hijab, if you dont already.
im sure youre a perfect muslim, who is sure to land up in heaven.
thanks sadzz, you understand what im saying perfectly.
aww catty 
u’ll be fine.. InshAllah.
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ah Cm, I feel better after reading that.
babygulamjamun you talk such crap its unbelievable. dont judge me, coz you have no idea china!! ramzaan is a very personal thing and i like to make the most of it in every way possible. but when there are no muslims around you at all, it does become difficult. if you go to saudi arabia youll automatically start wearing a full hijab, if you dont already.
im sure youre a perfect muslim, who is sure to land up in heaven.
thanks sadzz, you understand what im saying perfectly.
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no worries catty...
its the way u feel... and when u talk about it openly.. someone is bound to give u some religious lecture even though it has nothing to do with it..
good luck though! :)
maybe it wud be a good time to bring a change (like all muslims do in ramadan) in ur daily activities, and hence lure ur japanese friends/colleagues into actually asking about ramadan....
who knows someone might just benefit from ur actions (or change in them)....
take up the motive of reflecting upon others....
and if that aint good enuff, just read the following statement 100 times everyday:
i am getting fat and need to control my intake of food; and who likes japanese food anyway....
well said:k:
actually I am still trying to find a connection between these two statements.. help me find the link please:flower1:
yeh bachon ki samajne wali baat nahin hai.. hehe
if u read it without being so objective and judgemental.. u may find an answer
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yeh bachon ki samajne wali baat nahin hai.. hehe
if u read it without being so objective and judgemental.. u may find an answer
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u really want me to put the reference from Quran? yeah! u are right:) bachouN kay samajhnay waali baat nahiN:) cuz unn ko samajhnay kee zaroorat bhee nahiN.. :~)
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u really want me to put the reference from Quran? yeah! u are right:) bachouN kay samajhnay waali baat nahiN:) cuz unn ko samajhnay kee zaroorat bhee nahiN.. :~)
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rewind.... catty is talking about how she's feeling about ramzan as its the first time she's having it away from home...
how and why would u put a reference from Quran.. is she not allowed to feel the way she does? does Islam disallow her such feelings? geez na... all she stated was how she is feeling.... not... 'is she allowed to think like this' in which case... 'yes shes allowed to'
its a different story if she were talking about not fasting cus shes there... then u'd have full permission to put up Quranic references
catty
is this your first ramadan away from your family? It defintely takes more effort to do things when you are being used to do them in a different manner, whether it is observing a fast or even celebrating eid.
I am sorry that I can not really relate to your challenge as I have been doing Ramadan away from the family for about 17 years. First year it seemed very strange, I had no motivation to get up for sehri,,or really prepare for iftar. But I started puttign some effort into it. But any place I was there were some muslims around, in college or friends in the area.
But I had a similar experience 2 years back when i was travelling for work and was in Sioux Falls, south dakota during ramadan. The team with which iw as there had no muslims, and none in my client company. I did not know anyone in the community..but in a strange way that was the most personal ramadan for me.
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rewind.... catty is talking about how she's feeling about ramzan as its the first time she's having it away from home...
how and why would u put a reference from Quran.. is she not allowed to feel the way she does? does Islam disallow her such feelings? geez na... all she stated was how she is feeling.... not... 'is she allowed to think like this' in which case... 'yes shes allowed to'
its a different story if she were talking about not fasting cus shes there... then u'd have full permission to put up Quranic references
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okay my response was deleted to this.. i will again say.. u have no idea what i was saying but whatever u said is correct but not related to what i said :-)
ok first of all I'm not picking on you catty ..these are just my comments on the topic :)
Plus when you live in a non-islamic country and you are the only >person doing it, it is extremely tough as you have to change your ?>schedule and the like.
huh? I lived 8 years in an 'Islamic ' country and I was always the only one I knew (besides family & relatives) who fasted or even did namaz regularly.. I don't see how whether others not fasting around you should matter or not.. I 'd still hang out with them even if it meant sitting at a table while they all ate..
...though it does help if you can wake up during sehri with someone ..or in the case of my house my mom and I would wake every one else... over and over ..
only harder thing is you gotta do everything youreself.. which for me now makes it easier.. don't have to cook as often for a month
Other then loosing sleep and eating less I'm still just as active during ramadan.. I still go to excersize regulary and run around and do everything else too ..
..it used to really annoy me when people would say 'oh I can't fast cause then I can't study or whatever'
Yeah I imagine it was much easier when there was no electricity or air conditioning and when most people did manual work ..on top of their chores for as living..
I don't think Ramadan is supposed to be much fun anyhow. The idea is to learn some discipline and maybe some empathy for those less fortunate then you.
if you go to saudi arabia youll automatically start wearing a full hijab, >if you dont already
yeah cause they'll beat you with a stick if you don't lol
I can undertand.. 
but again Allah is near than our shehragh and there shouldn’t be any condition between us and Allah, not even when it comes to abandonment of entire world. I hope you embrace a great, productive and a blessed ramadaan ahead of you, insha’Allah. 
hey cat, hang in there. ull be fine.. just be strong. plus, isnt this wat Ramzan is partly about, having control over ur needs and wants?
and im sure we’re lucky to have such short rozas here in north america… no clue about Japan. lekin the weather sure makes it easy to fast, unlike some parts of the world jahan probably aag baras rahi hogi daytime main.
this is gonna be my first year away from home aswell… pakoray and chaat kon banakay khilaygaa roaz?
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Waqas and Mr Frauds, no this is not the first time I'm spending ramzaan away from home, and I havent even experienced Ramzaan in Pakistan or any other Muslim country for that matter. But its just different when youre at home during ramzaan.
I spent 3 years in boarding school, and ramzaan back then was tougher for me than it will be now. I shared a room with 11 other girls so you can imagine that as a 15 year old getting up at 4am and having cold dry sandwiches for sehri in the dark was not much fun. We had exhausting days and had to do extra-curricular activities after school. I've always been determined to keep my fasts. For Iftaari it was boiled vegetables, with rice and something. I used to be vegetarian back then because I wasnt sure what was halaal and what wasnt.
But I'm feeling much better now. I just found out there are 3 other Muslim girls in my dorm - one from Indonesia and two from Turkey. It made me feel a lot better.
Thanks for your encouraging words those who offered them :)