Either I was unable to undertand ur point or u were unable to understand mind.
Firstly, sorry if u thought i was hittin on u when i said "these r the people" i was rather talkin abt .....
"I'm not married but I've seen a marriage crumble only for this reason when everything else was great."
.......the ppl who let the marriage crumble becoz of financial problemz... They shld learn how to step up and support his/her spouse.
How can u gurantee that someone who has a job bfr marriage will be able to provide and food and basic education to his kids throught out the life ? I dont agree with ur statement that "Basically, a guy holding a job at the time of proposal shows that he is capable of finding one in bad times."
why do u think all these marriages crumble .... coz guy didnt intially have a job, well for most cases the guy was employed and not anymore and thats when prblmz started.
offcourse its a good thing if guy has a job bfr marriage, but if he doesnt have a job doesnt mean he never will... Again look at the guys character not his job.
A guy who doesnt' work for a long time can slowly sink into depression and as a result become bitter, nasty, and treat others unfairly and unkindly.....he may regret his past choices and blame the wife for everything. I dont know about you but that takes a toll on married life.
It's not just losing a job, it's the aftermath of not being able to support or provide for your family that ruins a marriage.