Not breastfeeding as living in a busy houshold

[Brit_Chick]

Re: Not breastfeeding as living in a busy houshold

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@pkgrl000

I found it quite difficult to breastfeed my newborn between cooking for the guests and cleaning up after they left. Of course it’s perfectly acceptable to excuse urself to feed baby but many times she would feed for so long that I literally said salaam to guests and came back out after they had left or husband would come get me as they are leaving. It made me feel rude cuz I never realized before how long a newborn can nurse. Such a tiny stomach and so much milk!

Thank god my husband is supportive and was happy to serve them chai/snacks and just provide company instead of waiting for me to take care of those tasks.

It also helped that most visiting guests were young friendly couples not old aunties who would mind that I did not sit with them or provide dinner bla bla.

I totally understand where you’re coming from as I was/am in a similar position myself. And it’s not necessarily because the guests are expecting to be waited on or entertained, but I’m just such a hostess and perfectionist that i feel uneasy with just serving guests tea and store bought snacks. It doesn’t help that most of the guest aren’t local so I feel obliged to treat them with that much extra generosity as well as actually spend some time with guests who’ve made the effort to visit.

It’s all very well advising new mums to just put themselves and baby first but we are desi after all and with that comes a degree of common courtesy. For me, part of that means that you’re nice to your guests and don’t ignore them when they’ve come to visit. My baby doesn’t go without a feed or get neglected just because I’m busy with guests, I always have notice of their visit so I feed him before their arrival, during their visit and if need be there’s always expressed milk that I stockpile so that I can sit with the guests and feed the baby at the same time.

I don’t see why it has to be so complicated?