Non muslim friends for your kids?

[MIAinVA]

@TLK

^ MY daughter is telling all the kids in her class that there is no such thing as tooth fairy and Santa Clause. The other day, one of the moms at the bus stop shared that concern with me in a very polite manner cause Marya told her daughter that its your parents who put money under your pillow and not tooth fairy

^:cb:
I told my daughter its all pretend but I guess she’s too young to go around sharing that information. So how did you handle it with the mom who mentioned it to you? I’d like to know since I’ll probably be facing the same situation when my little one grows older and begins sharing the info

[somegroovychick]

Re: Non muslim friends for your kids?

but the tooth fairy and santa claus are harmless, are they not? they're clearly made up characters and if they bring some magic into your kids' lives, then why not?

[cricketplaya]

but the tooth fairy and santa claus are harmless, are they not? they're clearly made up characters and if they bring some magic into your kids' lives, then why not?

why not teach them lessons from the Quran instead of wasting time with fruitless make belief stuff, "magic".. there's always a stronger pov :) and that comes from our way of life, Islam.

to the OP, befriending non-Muslims is awesome especially in this time of today. But at the same time as parents (insh'Allah:)) we should fulfill our rights too. I'm not a parent yet but as a child (old kid:D) I know what my parents could of taught me growing up which would of better helped me interact with non-Muslims . Alhamdulillah I didn't fall into the wrong path but I have seen and I'm sure you as well have seen many who have fallen in the wrong group of people. As parents we should teach our kids the way of life of a Muslim... then and only then the kids have trust in us and we in them. Children are innocent so we should make our decisions on that note.

[Nosherwan]

Nice responses everyone. :k:

@aahmed

All I have to add is this from the Quran:

[60:8] GOD does not enjoin you from befriending those who do not fight you because of religion, and do not evict you from your homes. You may befriend them and be equitable towards them. GOD loves the equitable.

[60:9] GOD enjoins you only from befriending those who fight you because of religion, evict you from your homes, and band together with others to banish you. You shall not befriend them. Those who befriend them are the transgressors.

If God doesn’t forbid you to do something, then who are these desi paindoos to sit there and criticize you? Pathetic. I liked EVERYONE’s response here.

In addition to the noble verses you mentioned I would also like to add the following noble verse:

**This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers, but chaste women among the People of the Book, revealed before your time,- when ye give them their due dowers, and desire chastity, not lewdness, nor secret intrigues if any one rejects faith, fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good). **

(Intrepretation of the meaning of the Glorious Quran 5:5)

From the above verse we learn that not only are we allowed to recieve and give gifts of food to the People of the Book (Jews and Christians) but we are also allowed to marry their women.

Allah even allows us to take Jews/Christians as our family members (as our wives, as the mothers of our children, as our in-laws, as the maternal family of our children).

Allah doesn’t want us to be insular and cut ourselves off from the rest of the world…

…However what is important is to be strong in our faith and to obey Allah over anyone else so that when we have a choice between obeying Allah or our Non-Muslim friends/family then we should obey Allah,

e.g. If your Non-Muslim grandma (naani) wants to make you a bacon and egg butty you should politely refuse.

Or if your wife tells wants to cook you a roast pork dinner you should tell her you’ll just have the veg and the roast potatoes because Allah has forbidden you the flesh of pig.

Or if your Non-Muslim mates want you to go out for a drink with them you should refuse because Allah tells you that intoxicants are filth and that there is more harm to them than good.

Also if Non-Muslims show enmity to Allah, His Prophet, His Religion or the Muslim people then we should not support them or agree with them in that..

[somegroovychick]

why not teach them lessons from the Quran instead of wasting time with fruitless make belief stuff, "magic".. there's always a stronger pov :) and that comes from our way of life, Islam.

putting a dollar under your child's pillow because they lost a tooth is more about rewarding them for being a "big kid" and congratulating them for loosing their first tooth- which can be a pretty big deal for a kid. its a boost to their self-esteem and self-awareness. why is this an either/or situation? shouldn't you be teaching your kids the Quran anyway? why can't you do both?

[Sara516]

@Nosherwan

Or if your wife tells wants to cook you a roast pork dinner you should tell her you’ll just have the veg and the roast potatoes because Allah has forbidden you the flesh of pig.

If the dude marries a woman whose gonna cook him pork theres alot more wrong iwht that situation.

IMO all the desi men I know who marry goris, they know that pork is the big no-compromise thing.